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writes: What are the reasons for a married man to completely gone of sex?I really don't know what to think.. This is my husband ,after 26 years... Around 4 years ago ,he stopped touching,having any sexual feelings all together. Almost feels like a spell... He used to be horny and very sexually charged. He says ,sex is gone out from him all together...Is there a chance?????What can be wrong? Please help! I cant live in this weird unknown..I need to understand whats going on. Please,tell me all your ideas.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010): Darling, your husband may be satisfying himself elsewhere. My husband inexplicably went off sex. 6 months later I found him in bed with my best friend. He gave me "token" sex during the affair but it was only to allay my suspicions. I hope for your sake it is not the case
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): Thanks for the answers.Yes,I did talk to him, you can't really imagine ,that I didn't say anything for all this years.
Well,it's seems psychological,because he does have night erections,and his medical didn't show any problem with health. But he can't say more,than,he loves me,and no idea...
So,its a mystery.
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reader, pyan  +, writes (22 May 2010):
Hi
i will put a guy side to this. the same as happend to me. i would long after my wife and want to do all kinds of things with her (which we have done) she started to push me away and i kept tring untill about 6 months ago when i thought i was getting hurt by it. now she is wanting it and i don't. we have lost the ability to talk and whether we get it back i am not sure.
so if you can talk ask him what turns him on have you said no to things in the past. has he got ed probles which a lot of us go through.
my wife and i have yes toy most of our life now she uses them a lot. this turns me on but we are not talking when i try she dosn't want and vic versa
let us know how you go and if you want to pm and talk it go for it. good luck
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reader, Aussiemum +, writes (22 May 2010):
You need to sit down with him and make him discuss this issue with you. You have a right to know whats going on because of being half of a whole partnership. If its medical, you can seek support and medication. If you need to bring the spark back, get a holiday to somewhere tropical and get that connection back. Is your relationship still as good? ie communication? I would be asking that too...or is it just this one area. Guys can withdraw because they dont feel the same way about their partners. They dont know how to deal with it...so go quiet. Anyway, it would seem to me you both need to chat. Let him know how important it is to you to sort this out. Good luck!
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reader, happy24birthday  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Same thing happened to me, overnight it seemed. One minute he's chasing me around the house, and the next I'm the one chasing, but no response. Can't tell you why, but I can tell you it's happened to others.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 You say you're in your forties so I'm guessing your husband is roughly the same age?Loads of men at this age develop erectile dysfunction and it's a really embarrassing thing to admit to. So they pretend they're not interested in sex when really it's the one thing in the world they really want to share with you and feel bad that they can't and sad they can't enjoy the pleasure. Ask him about it and ask if he's got it, assure him it's noting to be embarrassed about because so many men get it, and help him to get treatment. It's something that can be helped on medication.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 May 2010):
 There are so many possibilities that I can't even begin to list them. Why are you only 4 years later questioning? I'd say it's not just that he suddenly lost interest in sex unless he started a medication that could do that (anti-depressants tend to). Possibilites:1) stress from work2) He's having an affair3) physical impotence4) he's addicted to masturbation/porn5) he's no longer attracted to you (have you put on a LOT of weight or stopped doing something you used to for your appearance?)6) a lot I haven't listedThe only way you'll know is if you sit down and have a real talk with him. A sexless marriage is just roommates with legal binding. Wish you luck.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 May 2010):
 I suggest you talk to him. Best way to find out what's really going on. Speculations will only lead to far fetched theories and hurt feelings.
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