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36-40,
anonymous
writes:so here's the deal. i was dating my boyfriend (now ex) for about six months. things seemed fine and great until i found out he was getting pictures from another girl and flirting with other girls via the internet. he is a shy guy and like lives on his computer unless we were spending time together thats where you could find him. i found out about this when we were together for about 2 to 3 months. i wasnt happy with this and ended things then for about 4 days. he seemed really remorseful and said just what i needed to hear. i recently found out he's been doing this all along withabout 5 different girls. around the time of our 5 months i started noticing he was acting different. so i called him out on cheating on me and he admitted to it and said he's been trying to change. i cant believe i was so stupid to let this happen to me again but thats beside the point now. so i broke up with him and now he's acting like the perfect boyfriend i've always wanted. i still love him but i dont know if i should go abck to him. i mean he acts nothing like he used to and i dont know if hes just a really good faker or he really means it this time. trouble is i have a hard time believeing anything he says because i feel like everything we had was a lie. he says there is nothing wrong with me and its just him and his "demon" he sits on the computer and gets bored to idk what to think anymore.help please!!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 He hasn't changed. If he gets a kick out of flirting/picture exchanging with multiple girls then he's doing it because he gets an ego boost. If he's acting perfect suddenly, have you considered that you might just be lonely and are dropping your standards? Don't be an idiot, we don't change... however we do enjoy a challenge and can change temporarily just to see if we can get you back... even if we don't really want you. It gives us an ego boost and this is just what your ex is after in my opinion.
Best of luck :)
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Honey, he's not going to change. He just know which buttons to push to get you to "momentarily" forgive him..Cut the contact, find a guy who is actually worthy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2010): Well I can deffinatley understand that all your trust you had for him has totally gone out of the window now...but you have to consider, do you love him enough to work at the relationship and give him the chance to gain your trust back?If you did however give him another chance, I would most deffinatley make it his last. If you and him do work out, I would consider looking on his computer to check if he's been flirting with other girls. That way, you will know what sort of person he is, and whether he was lying to you or not.
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