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51-59,
*shmara
writes:last year my life turned up side down my husband of 15 years started using drugs I thought i can help him but i don't think his worth all the trouble. why don't i have the courage to leave him. when i try to leave it very very hard
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2010): At this age and after 15 years of memories, i do not think leaving is even an option. Marriage is about good time as well as worse time. If he is falling it is your duty to pull him up. I can tell you that best happiness and peace you will get being him and helping him. Leaving will create many problems for life long, which are even worse and have much worse ramifications.
Be togethor, he is facing some problems help him come out of it. He will come out of it with your support. I do not know his side of story, and why he has gone to that situation.
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 Helping any kind of addict is exhausting. Trying to help one that doesnt want to quit an addiction can be soul destroying. The last year or so has probably left you shell shocked and hardly in a position to leave your husband and start a new life! I think at this stage you are expecting too much of yourself. You are in a position which is not of your own chosing and a lot of things will have changed for you. Before you makes any big decisions i would seek some counselling and work out where you want to go from here. Maybe try and get your husband to go along too, if he will. If you do decide to leave, i think you will need the support.of a counsellor for that too. Because addicts dont always let go or move on very well. And you will need some support in order to deal with that effectively. All the best x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 June 2010):
It's hard to leave someone you love. He has to want to change for himself. If he won't change, then speak with a friend and get them to help you leave, such as pack your stuff. Sometimes you need someone beside you when you do something like this.
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reader, raiders +, writes (8 June 2010):
 You might love him but you have to think on you. If he don't want to leave the drugs there is not much you can do for him. He has to want a change. You might be co-dependent and there are support groups where you can go for help. Please take care of yourself offer him the tools and if no benefit comes out of it than get out.
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