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writes:Well, I'll keep this short and simple, I had a miscarriage but I don't feel bad. The man I was pregnant by and I are not on speaking terms any more. All I feel is relief. I didn't wish for this to happen, but am I wrong to not feel bad? Reply to this Question
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reader, fishdish +, writes (6 January 2010):
 I'm glad you didn't have to bring up a baby in that environment and were smart enough to get yourself out of it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyea, he is an abusive loser. Him & I got into an arguement, he didnt call me for a while [before the miscarriage], & he finally called me, we talked about the child and all I could do was cry. I told him I never wanted to be a single mom etc etc, and all he could say was oh well...I really do think this has been a blessing. :) thank you everyone for helping me out here.
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reader, supermum  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 If you are not unhappy, there is nothing wrong with that at all. Everyone deals with loss in different ways. However, i think, by the fact you are worried about not being upset, that you are more upset than you realise.
Having said that, as long as you are ok, thats the main thing,!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes it wouldve been a very big reminder of him. the bad part it, he doesnt even know ive miscarried, as he just doesnt care. I just didnt know if I was being selfish for not being sad cause its an innocent life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): Thats not a bad thing. I was once in a 6 year relationship almost married, had a miscarriage and it ruined my life. I was sad, stressed, annoyed, and eventually lost my fiance over it. I was rude and angry all the time. Now I'm pregnant and just found out that the father is married with children. I do not believe in abortion but if I had another miscarriage it would probly be a blessing. I would never do anything to the baby, however I kno that God is not gooing to put more on me than I can bare. Enjoy your blessing u have a nother chance to make it right.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (5 January 2010):
Why do you WANT to feel bad?? The miscarriage was nature's way saying this baby wasn't meant to be, which seems to be for the best given your circumstances with the guy. If you feel guilty for mourning, mourn, but if you don't, don't force yourself to, you can't change anything that's happened anyway.
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