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*uaris
writes:I am a teenage boy in high school. I am pretty athletic and many guys compliment me daily about my physique. I also am dual enrolled in college level classes through my high school. Im not extremely outgoing but im not shy either. What I want to know is is why no girls seem to like me. Im not popular or anything but im not unpopular either. Im just a decent, attractive (relatively), intelligent guy who never seems to have any female attention. Ive only had two girlfriends in high school and im already a senior. Even though I was with one girl for an entire year, both of these girls had feelings for other guys while we were to together. This has left me very cold towards girls in general. I have become very bitter to the world. I dont feel happy like a normal teenagr boy who just "wants to get laid". I truly, honestly would like to find a decent respectful girl to have a deep relationship with. But I seem to find a flaw with every girl I start to like. I find some moral weakness and feel like they are trashy or something. I wish I wasnt like this its just I am a very clean guy and I want a clean girl who I could respect. But I dont believe there are girls liek that in the world. I am left feeling very lonely and depressed all the time. Im a pretty well adjusted guy and all I want is a respectable girl. Ive just become so bitter in my loneliness. I guess Im just wondering if anyone has ever experienced this? and for how long cause I am going on maybe...six months of persistent thinking like this. And maybe what I can do to get out of this mindframe.
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reader, aavv  +, writes (4 December 2010):
Hey Luaris
I gotta say im pretty much in the exact same boat as you. I see this was posted a while ago but i was just wondering how things have went for you since posting this. I am in first year university, get excellent grades.The only relationship ive been in lasted a year and a half. Im not ugly, peak physical shape, and i am always trying to be the best i can be toward others. Since my last relationship 2 years ago, girls just dont seem to look my way. Anyways best of luck to you and any advice you may offer to me.
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reader, floridachick1992 +, writes (6 January 2010):
Dear Lonely Boy,I assure you there are clean respectable girls out there for you. They just tend to be hidden among the quieter crowd. I'm a junior in highschool and I too have not been very active in the "dating game." I think you and I are in the same boat. I've been told I'm pretty and I do well in school and I love to make people laugh, but it's so hard to find a guy who is not all about screwing every girl he can get his hands on, no pun intended. Like you, I want a mature relationship with someone I consider an equal. I think for your situation, you should wait until college, or if college is not in your plans, until you get to the real world. In a place of higher learning and in the real world people mature really fast. High school is not the real world.And from the little I've read about you, you seem like an awesome guy, and it would be any girl's mistake not to see that. :]Best of luck to ya. :D
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reader, Spades +, writes (6 January 2010):
 Marder beat me to it. Exactly what I was going to say.
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reader, lovemylove +, writes (6 January 2010):
Don't worry, I'm a sophmore and I'm barely with my second boyfriend right now.
First of all, treat women with respect and care. Don't be cold to all of us just because a few didn't go the way you wanted.
Second, be very confident. Girls love confident guys who will protect them.
Third, get to know a girl you might like first. Don't just go straight into a relationship. Take a few weeks to develope a relationship (not boyfriend girlfriend) but just as friends. You should be able to do everything and talk bout everything together. Make sure you are comfortable, then make your move.
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reader, marder +, writes (6 January 2010):
 High school can be a really difficult time to try to find love. I respect the fact that you have high morals and standards. I think that is really lacking with youth and young adults these days. I also believe that finding flaws in every girl (moral weakness, trashy) may be dangerous thinking... you will feel more lonely and bitter if you continue to think that every woman is flawed. There are girls/women out there that are well adjusted and respectable, so don't give up hope! I'd advise you to keep an open mind and be patient. Good luck!
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