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writes:Hi...I just need some advice on this situation. Okay, my guidance counselor (female) and I spoke with each other regularly for a few weeks because of a near-divorce thingy between my parents that is now resolved. But now she calls me into her office at odd moments during school, and when I go into her room, it's always darker than when I pass it to go to all of my other classes. And she shuts the door and locks it when I'm in her room. Are you guys getting the same bad feeling?When I meet with her, she always gets really close to me, and she has been starting to brush her feet with mine and rub my knee...akward. I avoid her whenever she's watching the other grades pass to classes, and I avoid eye contact with her at all costs because I feel so uncomfortable around her every time I merely see her. She isn't married, doesn't have kids either. I do not like her at all in any way, shape or form, can someone give me advice on how to get rid of this problem?? Need to focus on school things to gear up for midterms and I really don't want to spend all my study time in her office...help! Reply to this Question
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reader, LessonsLearned +, writes (6 January 2010):
She should be in tune with how your reacting to her touches or attempts to draw you in. She may just be bad at reading people. But you don't need to feel uncomfortable around her. Just leave her a note that you'd rather not meet with her as you've been feeling uncomfortable with the situation. She will likely back off, if not then you have to talk to your principal and make your feelings known. Again, make sure you say she has done nothing wrong but make you uncomfortable.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (6 January 2010):
I know she has counselled you and you may be reluctant to get her into trouble. So just write her a note saying: thanks for all the counselling you have given me. But I am ok now and want to move on with my life and I no longer require any counseling. Send a friend to drop it off or slip it under her door. If she persists then tell your favorite teacher to tell her for you; you dont have to give full details. She really hasn't said anything that can be used as proof of misconduct so it might just spiral out of control if you report her first without trying to end it quietly. In the end it will be your word against hers. She could easily make something up about how messed up you are. At least if your favorite teacher tells her for you, a member of staff will be able to back up your attempt to get away if she persists.
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reader, Exeterjohn  +, writes (6 January 2010):
From the way you describe the situation, this sounds like inappropriate behaviour. A professionally trained person would be sensitive to your feelings and you should try to find the confidence to say that you feel uncomfortable. If you cannot say so directly, then find a senior member of staff and ask to see them in confidence. Say exactly what you feel. Ways can be found to make sure that counselling is a positive experience for you.
John
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