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*ionicTongue
writes:My wife won't let me go down on her, I LOVE doing it and I am actually pretty damn good at it. (5 girls have told me I have given them their only orgasm from oral) I try to head down south but she tells me 'I don't want you doing that right now'...when I have done it in the past she always finishes (if you know what I mean) what's the problem??
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reader, Yamini  +, writes (31 December 2010):
 ummm not my choice... i dont feel good about it..
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): Quite honestly, it might be hard for you to understand women's embarassment about their genatilia, because men don't have a comparable body part. You see what you look like every time you go to the bathroom....I can't remember the last time I've seen mine...I can honestly say, I have no idea what I look like down there. In a sense, letting a man perform oral sex on you makes you very vulnerable. In all honesty, female genatilia is not particularly attractive (at least to most straight women) and it's messy, occasionally it bleeds, and it can smell bad. So letting someone put there face in it can be a big leap of faith. Sometimes, you wonder if he's just pretending to like it.You say you like it, but she might have trouble imagining why, because more often than not, she doesn't appreciate it. Maybe it's an issue of her being comfortable in her body?
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reader, courtneyybrookee +, writes (30 December 2010):
I personally don't like it either. I mean yeah it feels good I'm just not a fan of it. Maybe she's the same way?
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (30 December 2010):
While oral sex is enjoyable for women, they get much greater emotional bondage created from intercourse. During the act of intercourse, a bonding agent is released within the female brain, making them feel connected to the person they are with. This connection means much much more to them than 100 orgasms could. While orgasms provide them with sexual pleasure, the act of intercourse and romantic intimacy gives them so much more emotional attachment and positive feelings, which assure them that the relationship is alive and real.Sometimes, yes, the orgasm itself is all they want, but in this case she may just be reaching out for something more. She wants to feel close to you and in love, not just sexual driven. There is a big difference to women and knowing that difference can make your relationship and sex life loads better.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): 'I don't want you doing that right now' in my opinion, mostly likely means she doesn't feel completely clean down there at that moment, or she isn't in the mood for it.Just give her time, if she wants it, you'll know about it I'm sure. Perhaps asking her? You never know she might be one of those women who just don't really enjoy oral, no matter how good at it you are.
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reader, Krazybihh +, writes (29 December 2010):
I personally don't like when guys go down on me. Yea the past couple times Ive had a guy go down on me I finished but I didn't enjoy it. U shouldn't be afraid to talk to ur wife about this though, u guys are married u should ba able to go to her for anything u want or need to talk about.
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reader, Milagros18  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 She can only know why she don't like you going down on her. Ask her, tell her to be honest about it.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 If she doesn't want you doing it, then just leave it out for now. Find out what else she wants you to do to satisfy her. She may even change her mind at some point and ask you to do it again for her. But for now, work on doing what she would like you to do.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (29 December 2010):
 Is it the be all and end all of y our sex life. If your wife isnt happy about it then you have to accept it. have you tried asking her whats changed, for instance if you mention that your five other girlfriends had no problem from it then that would be a turn off. Don't worry about it now, maybe later your wife will tell you what she wants again. Sexual preference is very personal to two loving people and she must have a reason as to why it's not what she want's any more, she may have a medical problem that she can't talk to you about. be sensitive with her.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (29 December 2010):
 BionicTongue. Nice name. LMAO!!
Perhaps she's feeling self conscious about something. Perhaps she doesn't like it as much as you think. Just because someone gets an orgasm that doesn't mean that the really like something. It could also be because she thinks you're expecting reciprocation and she doesn't want to return the favor, so she's stopping you.
You should talk to her about it, because that's the only way you'll find out. Tell her you love doing it for her and you're wondering why she won't let you now. Be kind and reaffirming.
FWIW, I've known some girls who really don't like guys going down on them. They'll usually let it happen a few times because the guy likes it, but then they stop it. Everyone is different, so the only way to know for sure is to ask. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): from my experience bud, its generally a mixture of things; she hasnt bathed today lmao!
shes on her jam rag
or she hasnt shaved also she might just be uncomfortable with you going down south; some girls arnt actually into it.
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reader, jessicalynne +, writes (29 December 2010):
 She may feel not so "fresh" down there. Because if you're sure your good at it, then give her time. Women have those days. Sometimes weeks when they don't want oral because of that reason. Sex is a different story because their business isn't going right in your face.
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