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writes:Hello and thank youMy husband addresses me as his girl , his babe, his baby on social media but never his wife. We are legally married. I'm not sure of I'm over thinking or getting upset over the title. His girl to me means girlfriend. I have many pics of us and I always say his name and that he is my husband. Should I be offended by his title about me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2019): Are you focusing on this small thing because you have other problems in your relationship? Or is this your only problem? If this is your only problem then you're being extremely sensitive.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (19 June 2019):
 As Shakespeare famously wrote, "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet."
I understand we are all different but, personally, I would rather someone used a nice pet name like "babe" or "baby" than just an official "wife". Surely that sounds a lot more affectionate? Have you spoken to your husband about this and told him YOU would prefer to be referred to as his wife?
If you have to ask whether you "should" feel offended, then I would suggest you choose not to be.
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reader, Queenveleveteen  +, writes (19 June 2019):
I read a medical study the other day that said women are dying much younger while men are living much longer... Maybe that is because women take things way to seriously and should look to the men in their lives as an example of how to enjoy life. LIFE is way to short to be worrying about how he addresses his relationship with you. Those are words of endearment which means he loves you and you are special to him. He isn't denying his relationship with you, which would be far more concerning, and he's expressing his LOVE for you. Reality is he could be calling you much worse additionally, had you considered expressing your concern to him? If he means anything to you at all you would value his response.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 June 2019):
 Should you be offended?
I don't know. It seems a bit much to be OFFENDED over what he calls you on social media. I mean AFTER ALL don't the people who are his friends on social media KNOW you are his wife?
If you RATHER he uses to term wife, ask him?
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (19 June 2019):
 Personally, I think you’re overreacting. They’re just the typical nicknames, even for spouses. It’s also just social media - your family/friends should be the only people on there that you care about and they should know you’re married after the first time you tell them. If it really bothers you, then ask him if he’d refer to you as wife instead.
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