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*ydrummerboy
writes:I've been totally crazy about this guy for years...he knows it and has shown a interest as well...he has a major problem in my eyes...he lets me rub all over his body...Yes, I have even rubbed on his crotch...but nothing has went further...but that isnt my question..my question is..recently he came over and we started messing around...but its only ME that touches him...he doesnt touch me?? we have never frenched kissed..he says he dont think he can perform because he hasnt been with a woman in years but he loves to masturbating in front of me...he doesnt like oral sex either...I laid next to him with a sexy bra and panties on and he was naked...and he was rubbed all over by me...and I got nothing in return...I told him I thought he might be gay and just covering something up...he has been married before...no kids..he claims he is no way gay at all...I dont understand him...I have never layed next to a man and have a problem with him not touching me....I am so confused...this guy drives me crazy....what do you think?
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reader, mrvhappy  +, writes (23 September 2010):
Hi,
It could be one of a number of things.
Maybe hes be hurt very badly before and finds it difficult to trust women
Maybe he sees you as a sister/female FRIEND and feels nothing sexual
Maybe he's in love with someone else and cant stop loving her. (I Had female friends sleeping with me @ Uni but nothing sexual happened as I was still in love with my ex..but it was nice to have female company in my bed.)
Heres the worst one, maybe he just doesnt fancy you or wants to be in a realtionship with you.
Guess its time to talk to him about it or move on before your head ends up in a mess
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2010): Well i think your best bet in this situation is to just respect his wishes. He obviously has an issue with this and the best thing you can do is not pressure him, it will only make it worse.
I understand that can be quite demoralising for you as you could begin to wonder if its something about you that makes him not wanna touch you.
If you really like this guy as much as it seems you do im sure you can wait for him to become comfortable with it. I'm not saying it will be easy.
If he enjoys you being sexual towards him carry that on. He may get lost in the passion of the moment and return the favour.
It may also help to tell him exactly what you want. If the problem is that he's worried he doesnt know what he's doing etc he might benefit from a step by step instruction manual. So next time your in the heat of the moment take his hand and place it where you want. Try whispering to him the things you would like him to do to you while taking it in turns to satisfy you both.
I hope this helps.
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