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female
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*990rebecca
writes:Hi,I've been in a relationship for 3 years. My boyfriend *Alan cheated twice in the beginning of our relationship (ex girlfriend and a woman that goes to his gym where he works.)I didnt deal with it at the time as my mind was else where with my mum being ill. Things have never been the same since. We argue and fight alot. Things at times have got out of control. We have took many 'breaks' (never his idea, all on my terms) and I now live back with my mum. I get insecure over the smallest of things; him looking at other women, him teaching his fitness classes, accepting girls on Facebook that come to his gym, him going out/ going on stag do's with his friends; One night when he said he was off to play poker with his friends I got mad because we had been texting then he stopped and it turned out he had gone out clubbing. Was I wrong to think he should text to say? I just got him stumbling in at 3am and even then I had to ask if he'd been out. Is it normal for him to accept girls that come into his gym? Dont get me wrong it isnt alot, just a few that the guys he works with know. Apparently. His ex girlfriend emailed him a few month ago asking how he was and he was straight up and told me and also that he had no intention of replying but I cant help thinking if he did and that he was just lying.I dont want to be an insecure person because it's not who I am. I still feel alot of pain about him cheating and I think I believe he hasn't cheated since. I know he loves me and everytime I try to finish the relationship he wont let me go. I just dont feel his love enough. He says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and when things are good, we are complete. but it doesn't take long for me to get insecure and another arguement starting.I started councelling today because my confidence has gotten so bad. I would like an opinion or advice from anyone, men and women. I just dont know what to do.Thankyou. =)
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