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writes:Im 15, He's 16. We like each other, but were not going out just yet. We are on the verge of going out though.Im totally unexperienced, and he is experienced, he has had sex more than once, and i haven't gone out with a guy, i haven't even kissed a guy. I've basically done nothing!And we are taking things really slow, because he told me that he just got out of a relationship in February and he started liking me in April, and I started liking him in May.I'm glad that were taking things slow, because he has had 9 relationships in his past, which is quite alot for a 16year old guy, and I'm not ready to jump into one yet incase I become another girl to him.So, like I said were taking things really slow, but he just gives me the vibe that he doesn't care about me at all. He never calls, or texts or talks on MSN unless I say hello first.Once, I didn't call him for a week, and he asked me what was up, and I just said to him that I was waiting for his call/text because he never does.And he said: If you dont call or text, it shows that you dont care, then I wouldnt call or text you either.And I told him that im tired of always making the effort and I think you dont care for me the way I care for you.Yet he's still doing the same thing, and I dont wanna say it twice.Why doesn't he show that he cares? (If he cares at all)Could some of it be because he's not over his last relationship? Or he doesn't wanna move forward incase he gets hurt again?Pls HelpThanks x
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reader, iateadonut  +, writes (30 June 2008):
he's a player.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Sounds to me like the guy (who has been in 9 previous relationships) is enjoying being single too much and since you're taking things slow with him - he's speeding up the process with other girls.
If a guy really cares about you, you wouldn't have to be playing these guessing games, trying to figure out what he was thinking - you would know. He would call you, text you, wait for you to sign on MSN, even if you take a couple hours.
I think you should go shopping for another guy because this boy is only going to hurt you and you don't deserve that.
xo
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reader, lexilou +, writes (29 June 2008):
 Hes 16 years old and is still a child himself. It would be asking a lot to expect him to be caring at his age, some boys would be but a lot probably still put themselves first. Remember that boys mature emotionally later than girls.
Having said that if has been in 9 other relationships then he is enjoying playing the field and is not ready for real committment with one girl yet. So keep taking it slow and dont expect too much from him at this stage. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2008): It does sound like he doesn't care. Being in 9 previous relationships directly shows that he isn't shy with his girlfriends, so there is no excuse in his behavior.
I'm taking a guess here, but I think he might be cheating on you. He doesn't call you or visit you and puts on the pretext that you don't care, basically blaming you for stuff. That is a suspisious behavior. It could also mean, though, that he's not over his last relationship, but who knows.
What I would say to do is directly ask him what's going on. If he starts getting defensive and insulting/blaming you, dump him. You sound like a nice person and you don't need to stand to this kind of situations. If your man does not reach your expectations, dump him, and don't get involved in the drama that he might cause because tat will be a great waste of time for you.
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