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writes:I dated an amazing man for a year who treated me like such a queen. We lived together and had planned our entire life together. A couple months ago he began having crazy mood swings and would get so angry so easy. I found out he has been doing cocaine, although I'm not sure how often. I would say between 2 and 5 times a month. We started fighting all the time and I moved out. I told his mother what I found out solely to try and get him help, but now he hates me for it. I've been trying to make it work but I just don't know what to do. The only time I ever see him is when he calls me to come over late night, which I always go because I just want him. He has such an amazing personality and I believe he's just so lost right now. I want my perfect man back, I still love him. But now he goes missing for days at a time without even a text or call, I found out multiple lies, he always gets angry with me. I know deep down that I'm a great girl for somebody, but I want it to be him. Why doesn't he love me anymore? I just want to help him and see him succeed. What should I do?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 July 2011):
 He does not love you anymore because when you fall in love with cocaine eventually you find out there's no significant amount of love left for human beings. Do you know thay call it " the selfish drug "? Constant use changes your thought process and behavioural patterns, making users unempathic and emotionally disconnected.
As Eric Clapton would say " she don't lie, she don't lie, she don't lie "- SHE don't ,really, and she is telling you : stay away from this guy ; he cares about me , not about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2011): We often want what we cant have.Be assured you have made a lucky escape.Forget trying to change him into your perfect man.He has addiction problems and these will not go away with all your will.As for telling his mother.A mother will almost always side with her son.Blood thicker than water and a son is always a mothers curly headed baby.Move on girl and find a real man.
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