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36-40,
*H22
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 6years now and things were great for a long time, he was always so caring and so loving and made me feel special by doing nice things for me. But for the last year now he has made feel as though i am nothing to him and he treats me like rubbish.I can count in the last year that i must have ended the relationship about 20 times because of the way he treats me, but i have always gone back when he says sorry because i think he'll change. Sometimes he doesn't even say sorry and so i have to contact him to try and sort things out.It has got so much worse in the last 6 months, i was pregnant not so long ago and i was so emotional as any pregnant women is, my head was all over the place and I didn't know what to do but he was never there for me, he just kept saying "get rid of it" so i did because he said he'd hate me forever if i kept it.i regret it now and i cry myself to sleep thinking of my baby but everytime i mention it to him he just shrugs it off like it was nothing. After that iv always felt i could never forgive him but i carried on with the relationship because i loved him but its tearing me apart now and he just acts like i mean nothing to him and that i dont matter, its as if i dont even exist. He's stopped telling me he loves me, he doesn't want to see me, when i ask he'll make excuses, he puts everything before me, he only wants to see me when he needs me i.e a lift to work or picking up from the pub etc, when we do plan things i'll get excited and get myself all glammed up but then about 15 minutes before were meant to meet he'll say he's made other plans. It really has broke my heart and every time i bring it up he says he'll change and he's sorry, and understands that he neglects me, but then after a couple of days he justs goes back to his usual self. A few days ago I finally finished it with him because i couldn't cope with the hurt any more.... but when i ended it with him he just didn't care one bit and hasn't been in touch since to ask for me back or anything... I'm even more heart broken now than i was before and I'm starting to regret ending it with him and i know i shouldn't, but now i feel so alone and so unhappy i don't know what to do. Why is he so cold hearted, why doesn't he care? and if he didn't love me then why didn't he just tell me and end it with me instead of me having to end it with him?? Please help, i need to know why he can be so emotionless D xx Reply to this Question
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reader, Seven_Deadlies +, writes (1 May 2009):
 He's been using you... badly. I can't believe you've put up with this. Don't even think about getting back with him! He doesn't want you, he didn't even want his own child and made you get rid of it! What a selfish man. You are so much better off. He just wants to use you, which he has done. He's had his fun, and has left you with what? Regret, doubt and misery. You really deserve someone soo much better! Just please, never get back with him!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): I wouldn't worry about him- he sounds like a heartless git. There's plenty more fish in the sea who will care about you much more than him. Stick to your guns- don't take him back!!!
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