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writes: Why doesn't he call? I have fallen for a guy whose works too hard and loves spending time with his mates. Ohhh things were sooo rosey in the beginning and he always had time for me. He tells me he likes me and wants to be with me and wants to work things out but he doesnt call or give my any sign that he's legitimate. I wish I could read his mind. I want to hear from him and I am not going to call him I want him to chase me. I might as well be single but I hate being alone. I am ready to settle down and share my life with someone and he could have been the one. Just some words of encouragement would be nice to hear... Sad :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007): Yes, you do sound like a nice girl...perhaps too nice for this guy. I am sorry but how can we give you words of encouragement when we can see what this guy is doing to you. hun? You're pining away for some guy who is giving you just crumbs of his attention..if that. I think you need to hear some 'toughlove' words to help you get pissed off, get back your dignity and empowerment. You need this energy and strength to move on from this guy. Picking up a phone and dialing a few numbers is such a simple thing to do. If he really wanted to spend time with you, he'd call you--plain and simple. Unfortunately, Sweety, you have to stop waiting on this man because I'm of the opinion- men do love the chase! And he ain't chasing. Pack it in and move on to someone who appreciates you and what you have to offer. Choose wisely and go slow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007): I think you are setting yourself up for dissappointmentn to tell yourself this guy might be the one when you don't know him that well, guys can smell desperation from a mile away and it ususally scares them witless...
You are right to let him do the asking, just don't wait by the phone, stay busy and date around, the more guys you can date at the same time the less anxious you will feel about the whole process while you are waiting for the ONE.
Or better yet, don't date at all, just enjoy life until you hook up with that guy that returns your feeligs, it will happen when you least expect I imagine.
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reader, DocSilverback  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 Well darlin, it looks like you have a good heart. But if no one is making any calls, how are you going to have a relationship? By the looks of it, you are more into the relationship than he is. I say move on as much as it might hurt. There is someone out there who will share your feelings and will actually pick up the phone to call you. Life is too short to wait on a phone call. Good luck.
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