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writes:Why does she keep on embarrassing me?I am seeing this girl for the last year...we get on well and have many shared interests but....When we are getting on at our best and most relaxed she will, when we go out, decide to pick some (usually very good looking) guy and start waving and smiling over tables at him ---totally giving him the come on.This obviously doesnt make for good night for me...when I ask her about this she says shes just being friendly, but why then is this never with girls or average looking guys? I have asked her not to do this when in my company and if she feels the need to do this can she do it when shes out with her friends. Also I have told her if she wants to see other people just go ahead and say it and we can go our seperate waysThis will then stop for a while, we get nice and relaxed and then it happens again. It seems that she thinks that when we are getting on fine she can do as she pleases regardless of how it makes me feel. My mates have advised me to do the same to her but I dont think its a good use of my time or energy.So two questions: 1 - any clue why shes doing this other than shes wants to see other people 2: Should I put up with it (Im tired of saying the same thing over and over) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi all....shes gone and good riddance!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): I have to agree with Friend Tom. Just get up and say 'Good-bye' and go. See how it goes from there. If she doesn't want to know then you are well rid. If she follows you out then tell her that you have said that you are not happy with her doing these things and she still continues. Just don't back down. You deserve better and shouldn't be made to look and feel a complete bloody idiot!!!
Take care
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reader, ADELE14  +, writes (20 March 2007):
well no you should not put up with it dump her straight awai and see a sexi fit gilr who only wants your cock and no one elses
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): I have to agree with DreamMaster. She knows this bothers you, but continues to do it. You have talked with her about it, but to no avail. Next time it happens, just smile, get up, say good-bye, and leave. My guess is that this is what she wants you to do. Some people cannot seem to end a relationship unless they can perceive themselves as the "dumpee". Give her what she wants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): I don't think we have both sides to this scenario...You have been dating her for a year, she sounds like she is as interested in you as you are her or she wouldn't be there for a year....Could it be that you have not made a real commitment to her and she is trying to make you jealous to see if you still care about her, or to let you know that maybe you are taking her for granted?
Is she normally a gregarious, flirtatious person, or is it only when you go out together alone? Are you oggling other women when you are with her, do you watch a pretty girl walk by when you are sitting with her, if you are, women find that very rude....?
So, I am not sure why she would wave over a complete stranger when with you, that is just odd, it is as I say, she is purposely trying to make you jealous, she is either insecure in your affections or she is angry or both...
Instead of threatening her with dating others, ask her if there is something on her mind about your relationship and ask her why she is doing that thing she does, only she knows for sure....
Unless she is really avoiding you, I don't think it means that she is not as serious about the relationship as you are, it just seems odd, and something is not adding up for me here.
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reader, DreamMaster +, writes (20 March 2007):
 Hi,
Your girlfriend is not as serious about this relationship as you are,
It appears to me as though she now may be just with you until something better comes along,
It is possible that she may be trying to make you jealous (also not good), but I think the first scenario is more likely,
So I can quickly answer your questions with this in mind…
1. It is likely she wants to meet some of these other guys, and is just waiting for them to respond to her, and then she will either (a) cheat on you when you aren’t around (if she is waving at them while you are there – what the hell do you think she does when you ARENT there…?), or (b) dump you. She hasn’t shown any shred of compassion for your feelings, so I reckon (a) is more likely. In fact I would be surprised if she hasn’t already cheated on you a few times.
2. Absolutely not. There is nothing in your question that gives me any reason to think why you should stay with this girl. Even if you really like her you should dump her. It doesn’t matter how much you like her – she has to like you too or else you are in pain city.
The best option is to dump her. At least then you will have your dignity, and she might actually respect you (she doesn’t now by the way)
Sorry if thats not the answer you wanted, but hey thats life,
Good luck
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