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writes:I'm a 18 years old male with an appearance of a 15/16 year old (besides my beard). Some people even get surprised when I tell my age, thinking I was younger and then telling me I have a kiddy face. Personally, I don't find myself ugly face-wise. Just that. I'm around 1,75m tall, I'm really really skinny, I weigh like 50kg, and while I believe it's better than being fat I don't think it awards me any points either.If I were to go for the amount of compliments I have received for my beauty throughout my life I'd say I'm a really attractive guy. The problem is, I only get praised by older people - people in their 40/50's or just plain old people. When I was 13 there was even one mother at my brother-in-law's oath of the flag who wanted to introduce me to her daughter (who I recall I found cute). More recently, I've spent some time on a tailor shop because of a suit for cosplay I wanted the tailor (female) to make for me. She honestly took a liking to me, both personality and looks wise, and everyday I went there she would praise me and tell me how handsome and perfect I was, and telling me while she didn't like making clothes for men she enjoyed making clothes for me, and in the end I payed a lot less that one would expect (I even got pity and refused a bit of discount). One of her usual clients (female) also praised my looks and even told me I could take a modeling career (which I'd never do).Aside from that, I can assure that throughout my life I never heard a single praise from a girl my age or at max 10 years older aside from my older sister (lol) and my only girlfriend I ever had, almost 2 years ago. Nor have I ever noticed anyone looking at me with intend eyes, no matter the type of girl, even when I really try to notice. The only girlfriend I ever had was the only girl that I ever knew that had a crush on me. Never in my life any other girl took an open interest in me, nor teen girls have flocked around me like they do with a truly handsome guy, tried to flirt with me, or I heard flattering comments or jokes or w/e. In the end, I don't even know what I think of myself.Should I really seriously take the older women compliments? And what about never receiving praise from women my age?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): Ola Amigo :)
It could be that girls your age are too shy to admit it. They may find you extremely attractive, and don't know how to express that. In fact, they may try to hide it (that they are interested). I used to do that ;-) I'm old fashioned and would want a guy to show interest first. So even if I found him to be movie star gorgeous, I would still hide that and be all professional and factual around him, while trying to hide my blushing, feelings internally of a crush or something ;-)
So there may be more interest than you can imagine! Only the older ladies say something, because they have experience, they are more mature and have faced their fears and have nothing to lose ;-) I too am much more relaxed around guys who are just "friends", but a guy I am interested in, it's tense and uncomfortable because I am very interested.
Think - who acts that way around you, there may be someone who has a crush, and thinks your looks are perfect!
Even if not, don't wish your youthful looks away, or time. Just enjoy life as you are, be confident knowing many have expressed what they think, and in time, the right one will be there who appreciates you JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.
Boa sorte amigo!
De uma amiga Portuguesa :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): Give it time, the older women can see something in you the girls your age can't.... yet
Don't worry about it all, just get on with confidence that one day .........
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): "Should I really seriously take the older women compliments?"
No, consider them as non-sexual compliments from your older cousin, aunt or grandmother.
"And what about never receiving praise from women my age?"
Because you don't look your age, women your age assume you're jailbait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2012): I've just been told that I look 20 years younger than in fact I am, by someone who doesn't know me or anything about me, from a photograph taken 6 months ago, so it isn't flattery.
Accept it as good luck, OP - you will age soon enough and then you will cry for your looks to return!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 March 2012):
 Wait. That too shall pass.
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