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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am devastated because I can't make the final decision to let go and move forward from my ex. We were together for 5 years and I broke up with him last year. We didn't cut ties and still kept talking and seeing each other. However there was no sex. I love him but he has been my safety blanket for so long. I'm afraid to face life without him and the comfort he offers. He's been with me through thick and thin and his companionship has been one of the strongest and best things life has given me. He has become so ingrained in my life. letting him go would be starting a new life with part of me missing. I don't know if I have the courage to face lives struggles without him. I feel so safe with him.But during the years of our relationship, I have longed for passion, romance, a feeling of being light on my feet. This has led me to feel unfulfilled despite our strong bond. I have broken up 3x with him and always returned to him, out of habit or loneliness.How do I know if I should move forward or if I should try with him again?We are currently not talking but he waits for my answer. What to do???
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 March 2012):
 Move on. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. You haven't changed, he has not changed , if you get back together for the 4th time, you'll just end up breaking up for the 4th time.
If you care about this man, respect him, and set him free, free to be loved for himself and not because he's such a convenient security blanket. He has no fault for YOUR insecurities and immaturities, and if you feel you can't face life without a cozy security blanket, thst should be YOUR problem to deal with, not become his.
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