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writes:all my wife wants to do is give me head or jerk me off and all i want is to touch her but when i do she says no or stop i dont want to have sex i just want to play to it feels like its been like this for months Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): TasteofIndia is perfectly right.. Some times women can just want to give pleasure and we don't always want or need sexual intercourse. Also we may have women's problems, and feel too embarrassed to discuss it, and don't want to be touched because we are frightened to have sex. Please just ask her whats wrong, ask her if she doesn't want you anymore. Tell her you miss pleasing her, ask her if you are doing something wrong. The question title is right, we understand perfectly. You must go and talk to your wife. If nothing is the matter, then she'll be back to normal in now time at all. Maybe she just wants to try something different than having sexual intercourse all the time. I'm the same way.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Hello,
I think that the first two posters answered the question INCREDIBLY well - maybe you're just not reading their replies right.
With my boyfriend I went through a stint where all I wanted to do was please him. I would jump at the chance to give him head or jerk him off, but I didn't want him to touch me at ALL. Why, you may ask? I did have a "lady problem" and I was incredibly embarrassed about it.
She may have an infection and feel she smells or is too dry. She may just be too embarrassed to speak up about it.
It may not be a health problem at all. Maybe she is not satisfied with the intercourse you have - she may have been satisfied earlier in your relationship, but things change, sex changes and maybe she's not happy with intercourse anymore. Maybe she just isn't in the mood to be pleased, so she figures that if she satisfies you, she won't need to go any farther and she can get back to cleaning up the house or getting back to work.
Are you making the efforts at home? Are you trying to be romantic? To turn on a woman takes a much different approach than turning on a man. A woman needs to be turned on emotionally before she can get physical (and for men, they need to get physical before emotional!! Just kidding... sort of). Try to cater to her romantic side, be thoughtful and sweet. Give her a long, full body massage without even trying to have sex with her. This will show her that you don't just want to get into her pants, that you want to care for her just because you love to take care of her.
Talk to your wife. She may need to open up to you, so try not to be judgmental and make her feel comfortable opening up to you.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2008): your not reading the Q right she doesnt want me to touch her at all she just wants to pleasur me and i just want to return the favor we usedto have a great intmate relationship untill we got maried? the title for this Q sucks its all wrong Thx im the person who asked
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reader, JustChillin +, writes (23 October 2008):
 I'm in total agreement with Miss Potter's answer. Great answer! =))
Health was the first thing that popped into my thoughts when I was reading your question. It is very possible that she could have some female things going on and she is not comfortable with discussing them with you. It could be something as simple as a yeast infection. Seriously!
You didn't mention how long you two have been married or together, but I'm curious if she has been this way from the beginning of the relationship?
You should do as Miss Potter first adviced, simply ask her?
Best of luck to you both. Hope you can get the intimacy you desire, as it is part of what makes for an enjoyable relationship. =))
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Confront her directly?
Ask her whether her health has been troubling her? (Just a thought) Or she wasnt happy with intercourse before? Ask her exactly how youve asked us - why wont you have sex with me, you might get an honest answer!
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