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writes:My partner regularly says hes going to do something that will put him in prison if he doesnt return to his home country soon.I pay all the expenses for my home and he spends his money in the first week and then lives off me for the rest of the month.He is totally ungrateful.He says hes just talking to himself.I think he is trying to intimidate me .
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2022): Of course he says he will break the law etc. He wants to scare you into being so scared of losing him that you roll over and do whatever he wants, whether that is continuing to pay all of his bills without complaining or whatever. He only wants you for money - can you not see that? How do you know he is not already married to someone else? A man who is genuine about affection for his woman tries harder to work and bring in money and spends less so that he is not causing her problems.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (11 December 2022):
 Okay, major EW to this man. He wants to go home, let him!! He doesn't sound like he's offering more positivity and happiness in your life, just like he sits around being broody and siphoning your money and energy.
I'm gonna give this guy the benefit of the doubt, and say that he's acting out because he misses home. But, not knowing the details - he could be dangerous if he's making threats that have stuck with you long enough to include it in your letter here.
Ditch him, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2022): Get out! Sounds like you are in danger.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 December 2022):
 Why are you still with him?
KICK him the F out!
He is UNGRATEFUL and YOU allow it!
Why are you doing this to yourself?
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reader, kenny  +, writes (5 December 2022):
 I have to ask the question, reading you post what what you mention why are you actually with this guy.
Are there any positives to this relationship at all?. He is ungrateful, spends all his money then lives off of you for the rest of the month.
OP these are serious red flags, and the fact he says he will do something that will put him in prison is even more worrying as i would be questioning your actual safety.
Why don't you let him return to his own country and end things after that?.
If you afraid of leaving him you need to seek help, there are people that will listen to you and offer you help and advice on what to do in this situation. But you need to take steps sooner rather than later as this relationship is toxic and i don't envisage things getting better any time soon.
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reader, kenny +, writes (5 December 2022):
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