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writes:I have been with my partner for 3 years, we live together, we have already discussed what we want with our futures and things are generaly good between us. Recently, however, he has been driving me insane to the point of me feeling like i should leave. I'll list it out;I tell him about some problem i have and he either acts like he's not listening or just looks at me and quietly laughsI ask him a general question and he gives me such an obtuse answer i can't understand and need to ask again and again only to have him run circles around me until i leave the room out of angerI ask him to do something for me, often a small task, and he just acts like a 12 year old boy trying to dodge housework, usualy comparing work scales/loadsHe's not a bad guy but lately these things have been frustrating me to a point when i either feel like screaming, crying, punching something or the most common secluding myself in the bedroom or bathroom. I just want to know if im just over reacting or if he's just trying to joke with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (14 July 2012):
 I feel your pain and I know exactly what you are talking about. My ex was the master of this type of behavior. For the first three years of our relationship he was wonderful. He did things around the house, we listened to one another and solved problems togethers, he would answer questions directly, then he started this type of behavior where I felt like I was dealing with a child all of the time. It is very frustrating and I do not blame you for going into seclusion. They can be so thoughtless and inconsiderate...like they are not in a relationship at all. It could be things he has always done, but my ex was the complete opposite of this and then just started doing these things over time. I got to the point where I could not talk to him because he would change the subject, blame me, or totally ignore me. That's why he is my ex. I felt like he didn't take me seriously anymore and thought any issue that needed addressed was just a joke. After awhile it gets old, like you have said here. You could try having a seriously talk with him and telling him if things don't change you are going to leave. I would go to bed a lot of nights crying because I felt like my ex was intentionally being cruel and inconsiderate to me.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 July 2012):
 Maybe you've let him get away with this behaviour for so long that he's started over-doing it. Make it clear what you dislike about his responses and then leave the room or end the conversation. If he dances you in circles with meaningless answers then tell him "I do not understand what you mean to say. If you can not explain yourself then I will not talk to you about this any more". Then end the conversation, don't ask further questions, and do something else. You don't have to get hung up on it if he says something stupid or irrelevant. Just let it go. Learn to let it go. If the answer is foolish, ignore it. Don't let it provoke you.
I've learned a long time ago that some times people just do answer weirdly. Ignore it. If it isn't important then leave it be. Or give them 10 minutes and then ask again.
Maybe the reason why you feel so irritate lately isn't because he recently started doing these things. My bet is he's always done these things. But you're growing tired of him, and you need a break from him. His little annoying habits have gone from being cute, to frustrating. Probably this has more to do with the length of your relationship, than it has to do with him intentionally trying to make you go crazy.
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