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writes:My ex and I dated for a year and four months and during that time (and a few years before that even), she's been obsessed with British guys. She talked about one day marrying one but I didn't think she would actually leave me for one! We'll just call the bastard 'Charles'. Well, about nine months ago, she went on a Study Abroad trip to London, England that lasted six months and came home just in time for this past Christmas with some really bad news... on my part, at least. She'd met someone whom is four years her senior, has never been married nor has any children and is a pilot. She said she'd never connected with anyone better than she did with this guy. Right away, I wanted to tear him limb from limb for stealing my girl!Well, she's back in England now attending Oxford until she finishes her PhD and being that asshole's girlfriend. I just want to know, will I ever get over her? We've been over since December 27th, 2008, but I still can't stop thinking about her and what she might be doing. Help please...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2009): It may not seem like this to you now, but trust me, good riddance! She was a bad girlfriend... talking to you about her desire of marrying a brit, when you're not one? Ouch! That's disrespectful! But the worst thing is that she actually left you for someone else... she didn't even break up with you before she started seeing this guy. She's not a good hearted woman, that is not something you do to someone you've been with. That's hurtful and she knows it. The moment she met this man and she started having feelings for him, even if she was still in Britain, she should've let you know! It's common courtesy.You don't need someone like her, you're better than that. You will get over her, realize just how awful what she did to you is! Think about this as if it had happened to one of your friends, what would you tell your friend? That she was a bitch? Most likely.It's going to be hell for some time, but it will pass. At least she's away, so no-contact should be a lot easier. Fill up your time with activities that fill you with joy. Hang out with your friends, meet new people, devote your time to your hobbies, be selfish for a little while! Eventually you'll get over her and the pain she caused you and you will meet a new girl when you're ready for a new relationship. Just remember that just because this girl was a bitch, not all of them are.
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reader, Helpful_In_Ohio +, writes (31 March 2009):
 i know the feeling man i have been in the same situation ( not with a brit but ) it will take time man I would love to be able to give you some quick fix and tell you just drink this and she will go away but if you have her in your heart then her vision is gonna be around for a long time.
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