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anonymous
writes:My ex and I broke up a few days ago. I ran into him at the mall today. He came up to me to say hello and how are you, then we said bye. Then tonight I logged onto Facebook and saw that he deleted me. What is this conflicting behavior?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2012): Thank you everyone! I'm just confused cuz he came up to me and seemed quite excited. He could have easily avoided me.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 July 2012):
 It means he has manner (saying hello when you met in person).
But he deleted and blocked you, so he can get over you.
It makes perfect sense to me.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 July 2012):
 It's not conflicting, it's just polite. Making a major production of purposedly ignoring someone you used to be close with, when you meet him /her somewhere, would be an unwarranted, rude display of passive aggressivity. How your ex acted is civil and normal.
That does not mean though that he must want to have anything to do with you personally and at a social level.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (14 July 2012):
 It's not conflicting at all.
seeing someone IRL it's perfectly ok and proper to be polite.
you do not have to subject yourself to watching their lives unfold on facebook.
He sounds like a mature man...
be polite in public when you run into each other
and distance yourself from the person in every other way,
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2012): theres a number of things it could be. did you break up with him? if so it may be because after seeing you he realised how much he still liked you but knew you didnt want to get back with you so he blocked you to stop any further contact between you? Or seeing you so soon after the break up upset him and he therefore didnt want to see you again? Or he was angered at seeing you which resulted in him deleting you to try and get back at you?If he broke up with you it could be because he realised he still liked you so he deleted you to stop him from asking you back out because he may feel like an idiot/ knows you wouldnt get back with himor he forgot to delete you and seeing you reminded him to do sothe reason that he spoke to you was probably because he didnt want to seem like a jerk/unpolite or make it awkward because it would of been if he just ignored you
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2012): Maybe he deleted you before he seen you at the mall, but thought he would show there is no hard feelings by greeting you there.
Some people don't delete their ex's off social networking sites, but most DO because it makes it easier to move on and forget, when they can't see their ex's daily business up in their face's.
I don't think this is conflicting behaviour. Its the ex's that don't delete you who are likely to cause the conflict by sticking their nose in your business 24/7.
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reader, MissTellAll +, writes (14 July 2012):
 Maybe your ex knows he should be polite in public but doesn't want contact with you in any other way for now. Or possibly talking to you could have in some way made him think it might be best if you two aren't connected through facebook.
Any way you spin it, the general answer is for whatever reaon he thinks you should lose contact and considering you are freshly broken up, I can't say I disagree with him. Keeping contact with exes is a very, very tricky thing. In my experience it is best to just let go.
Hope this helped!
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