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writes:Well me and my ex broke up beginning of the year, he dumped saying that he didnt have feelings for me anymore. I accepted it and just ignored him and went on with my life. Then about 2 or so weeks after that he started trying to get me to talk to him and trying to bring up the past etc. But by then I had already decided I did not want to date him again cause he really messed me around. So after that we both spoke and agreed that we wanted to be friends. Which went well for abit but I was dating someone and then my ex just went cold and was just mean to me. Like he only spoke unless spoken to and went out of his way to rub in my face how happy he was.So now a new semester started and he started following my friends around. But now he got a girlfriend and he is making a huge show out of it. Saying how much he loves her after only dating for 3 days and making a big show of bringing her to his classes (all the ones my friends are in)And yeh I dont know what to do and why he is acting like this. Please can someone explain why he is like this to me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): Fantasia I suspect the other posters are telling you something you already know.
The real question you should be asking is whether you would put up with this kind of crap from anyone else, and if you wouldn't then why are you putting up with it from him?
This guy is bitter, jealous and he resents you, you've got to decide whether you're going to continue to let this loser mess with your head or whether you're gonna tell him where to go.
If I were in your shoes and I have been before, I'd completely ignore him and let everyone that will listen know how happy you are that he's an ex and how you can't even stand to be his friend anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2010): You made the wrong choice by allowing this guy to be friends with you!! I don't know what it is with people wanting to be friends with guys and gals who dump them...friendships are just as important as romantic relationships and if the person doesn't make a good boyfriend or girlfriend, I don't think they would make a good friend either.
Cut this guy lose..out of your life FOR GOOD. Don't contact him and fix it so he can't contact you. If you have to change your number, block him on your email and networking accounts DO IT. Ignore this fool...because, that is what he is A FOOL.
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reader, amandanash  +, writes (29 July 2010):
He's trying to make you jealous, and probably feels like shit about the break up so now he's just trying any way he can to feel good about himself and to try and boost his ego. Guys work in the sense that they will do anything that brings the most pleasure to their lives with the least amount of pain. Thus saying, guys will take the jerk, douche bag and coward way out of things. Rather than him genuinly going out to enjoy his life and properly getting over the relationship she's looking for instant pleasure and gratification for himself, and the fastest way to do that was the get a girlfriend.
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reader, totty-flossy +, writes (29 July 2010):
 Ok first of all your ex seems like he likes to play mind games and his huge display of happiness is probably false and over exagerated.He dumped you and then when he changed his mind and wanted you back you weren't interested, this probably annoyed your ex as he was used to calling the shots and having the control! So when you turned around and told him you weren't interested in dating him anymore he will have wanted to gain control back and this is his way of doing it.He thinks that if he can make you jelouse that he is "winning" so to make him stop you need to show him your really happy for him that he found somebody else and ignore all his childish attempts to get your attention! Let him play his games, just don't rise to it ad this makes you the better person!Hope this helps. xx
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reader, InLoveW/Love  +, writes (29 July 2010):
This guy is immature and actually jealous of your life believe it or not. I think he thought he would devastate you by leaving you and you would want him back. I'm glad you sad no. Just move on with your life and ignore his childish behavior.
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reader, healixmoon +, writes (29 July 2010):
darlin, it's as clear as day, he wants what he can't have and he's jealous to the point of the ridiculous. he's hopin that his pretend love and happiness will ruin your real one, he's trying to draw you back in by making you jealous. there's no way to stop him really, until he gets it all out of his system n grows up, you just have to ignore him, tell your friends to ignore him if they can.he's just being a pathetic little child it seems and you shouldn't bother with him
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reader, cocoqueen88 +, writes (29 July 2010):
 He is clearly jealous. just continue to ignore him and move on.
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