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writes:i went out with this guy that i really liked and he liked me and swore he hated this other girl. well one of my friends that i really trust or i did trust,cuz i guess i still liked him and i wanted to go after him, told me my bf was using me to get back at the girl mentioned above. so i took that into consideration and stopped talking to my bf for the afternoon so i could figure it out b4 i started accusing him. so i started talking to him again and we ended breaking up and like 2 days later he was with the girl he hated at his house and they were talking and whatever. so i talked to the girl and then my ex started getting mad at me. and like the next week i said sorry and stuff like that and i was going to c if we were ok and then see if he wanted to try it again and he said no with out explanation... well now i dont know what to do because i still like him and i liked him a lot b4 we started dating.... any suggestions on what to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2010): You were probably a rebound which is why he got back to quickly with the girl he so called "hated." You don't hang out with people you hate if you don't have too. The rumore was probably true but for future reference, don't allow what someone else tells you to be the final reason for breaking up. If what that person told you was true, you would have found out at some point that is if you kept your eye opened for the "red flags."
It is my belief that he used you simply because, you caught him a few days or weeks after the breakup with the same girl he claimed to hate at his house. Honestly, he fancies this other girl and just needed a distraction until he was able to get back with her...you were that distraction. Don't allow this situation to stress you out..the guy was playing you and the rumor turned out to be true. Just move on..you are young don't worry about it.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (29 July 2010):
 Move on. You tried it. It didn't work. He's no longer interested. This is pretty cut and dry.
A piece of advice for future relationships. Don't believe a rumor you hear. You never know the motivation for spreading it. Maybe he pissed someone off and this is their way of getting back at him. Maybe you pissed someone off and this is their way of getting back at you. Maybe someone out there is just a spiteful person who likes breaking people up. Who knows? You sure as heck don't.
He's doing the right thing not getting back together with you. This is nothing against you, but when a relationship doesn't work, it doesn't work. You shouldn't have to force something like this.
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reader, healixmoon  +, writes (29 July 2010):
hunny, don't bother with him, i know it's not what you want to hear, but if he's not givin you an explaination for sayin no and he's been spendin time with this girl he 'hated' then he must hav been lying to u somewhere along the way.i'm sorry it didn't work out n ur friend burst ur bubble whilst u were with him, but u shouldn't waste ur time on a guy like this. he sounds a little pathetic n i'm sure that u can do alot better.
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