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writes:HELP!I get so anxious whenever someone starts a conversation with me. Being around people I am totally fine with and I can handle a little bit of a small conversation, but I have issues keeping the ball rolling and I freak out whenever I should say something, but have nothing to say. I feel awkward and have a hard time creating strong lasting relationships.I need advice on communicating. Reply to this Question
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (18 November 2016):
 Have a list of questions that you've already prepared. People generally love to talk about themselves, so asking a person a question will get the ball rolling. You've got to have backup questions to keep the conversation on the move. For instance you ask someone "what sort of work do you do?" The next question can be "how long have you been there?" "Do you like what you are doing?"
I'm a fairly introverted person and always struggled with social occasions. But now I find that I can walk away from a conversation knowing heaps about that person, and they know very little about me, because I've asked all the questions. Using people's name will always make a good impression too. A person will feel that you are interested to hear what they've got to say, and feel good about themselves.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (14 November 2016):
Read...That is one of the best things you can do. Reading about different things in the world, different cultures, topics of concern in every day life, will give an arsenal ideas to talk about.
Keep in mind...talking too much is just as bad as not having a topic. It is better to be a good listener, and learn, than someone who talks too much.
Talking too much can be irritating to others, but you will have many friends if you are a good listener.
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