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anonymous
writes:When me and my boyfriend have anal sex, he always wants to cum on my face after. I don't mind once in a while but not every time. I have blown him many times and swallowed many times. Can anyone tell me why he wants this all the time ?
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reader, Amycoffeegirl +, writes (6 September 2016):
Different people have different things that turn them on.
Without actually asking your boy friend why, I think is is hard to be exactly sure why he is doing this to you. He may even think that it is something you like him to do.
You mentioned that you do not mind if he does this to you once in a while. Have you ever mentioned this to your boy friend? Compromise is always great and helps build a better relationship.
I would recommend talking to your boy friend about this, expressing your feeling about what he is doing, and seeing if both of you together can compromise and make the activity good for both of you as often as possible.
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reader, llifton +, writes (15 August 2016):
 I'd have to agree with male anonymous. I don't see it as a sign of disrespect or trying to assert dominance. He obviously just finds it incredibly sexy. I'm into women and I absolutely love it when it gets "messy." I'd think the same would apply to men and women. If it's not something you are into then you need to tell him. We all have our fixes. He obviously just really likes that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2016): To remind you that you're his. Maybe you talk to guys too much
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (15 August 2016):
 I think it's too unhygienic for it to be respectful, even if he's not intending to be disrespectful. It's risky to do it without a thorough clean first, as your rear end won't be 100% clean, so his ejaculation won't be either.
Do you *like* him doing it?
In porn, it's shown as sexy or dominating, never anything about love or sensuality. However, going from the rear end to the face (or anything, really) without a proper clean will increase your chances of a horrible infection.
If you don't like it, tell him. If you do like it and he respects you, the least he will do is clean himself before going near your face.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 August 2016):
 Too much porn? It's HUGE in porn for a man to "finish" off that way because it is VISUALLY a pungent statement.
Why not ask him? I DO think it has a LOT to do with porn and the perception of what some people think sex "should" look like.
UNLESS you REALLY enjoy getting sperm on your face, why do it? To please him?
And speaking from a hygiene standpoint... he JUST had his penis in your rear end... and then proceeds to cum all over your face... That is pink eye and other infections waiting to happen. Bacterial infections. And the thought of that.. is just eww in my mind. But HEY if you like it, enjoy it.
Some women like a "facial" some don't. Some find it sexy other degrading. It's a personal thing.
YOU need to figure out HOW you feel about it and act accordingly.
Sex is about TWO people's enjoyment. So IF he does things you don't enjoy you need to tell him. Same if YOU do something he doesn't enjoy either.
And I don't agree that it is "feminist propaganda" what a load of bull... that SOME men do it to "piss off their territory" - coming of another persons face doesn't bring EXTRA pleasure except for the visual. He could do it on her chest or somewhere else. Nothing to do with feminism. Let's face no one wants the wet spot in the bed afterwards, for a reason.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (14 August 2016):
 why don't you ask him? If he is willing to do it then Im sure he can muster up an answer. My question to you is_do you like it or is this something you do just to keep him happy?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (14 August 2016):
 As a female, I have to ask: what does he do for YOU during sex? Does he do things YOU find a turn-on or is it all about him?
Did he get his sex "education" from watching porn? Sounds like it to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2016): Well most women I knew would have far more problems with anal sex than getting jizzed in the face. Why do men like it? There are many theories: some say its domination, but I call this feminist propaganda. In the end its just really, really hot, if your female partner appreciates your sperm. Also when it comes to swallowing, its definitely not hot if a woman just swallows because she feels she has to... its hot when she understands actual act of the "precious" body fluid going into her mouth and body. To me its very intimate. The face is (normally) the part you visually admire most, about your female partner. If he wants to cum on your face it means he thinks you're very beautiful and simply like to shoot his cumshot (the ultimate sign of male sexual arousal) on the (for him) most attractive part of you body...
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (14 August 2016):
Ewwww!!!! I would never do this but it does help demonstrate that there are many flavors of sex in this world.
There's a good possibility that he picked this up from watching porn. If I'm right, it is called a "cream pie."
As for his motivation, two possible reasons come to mind. It could be feeling disrespect for you or he could be showing his domination over you. If he deeply loves you (and you've not indicated whether he does or doesn't) I doubt it is out of disrespect and is more due to domination. If he's just there for sex and doesn't respect you, well, there's your answer.
In any case, let him know what you do and don't like during sex. If he continues, its a strong sign that he doesn't really care for you and it is time for you to find someone more caring. If there's a positive side to this, once you ask him not to cum on your face you'll get to find out a lot about his motivations and how he really feels about you.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (13 August 2016):
I've heard of a few men who get off on cumming in their partner's face over the years. I expect it's a domination and power thing. It's a show of his manliness. Quite why anyone would want something that's just been acquainted with an anus near their face is beyond me. It is sexually aggressive behaviour he's displaying in my view. But anyway, if you are not up for this then tell him. He needs to respect your boundaries.
I wish you all the very best.
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