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writes:**I realize it is long, but please... just read it I have an FwB, but we act like we are bf/gf (just that there are no strings).He knows I like him a little, and he said he is starting to like me (not sure if that has changed or not, i asked over a week ago).He calls me 'cutie' all the time (its pretty much his nickname for me). He calls me 'his' cutie sometimes (when saying goodnight) e.g. Night Night my cutie xxxHe treats me pretty damn well; he even texts me while with his friends/at friends birthday parties, and even when he is driving sometimes. We see each other at least once a week We have been seeing each other for almost a month now. He usually texts at least once every two days (he is also usually the one to text me). He puts lots of x's (kisses) at the end of texts (not all, just some - the ones they suit)He is the one with the car, and is willing to drive me (when with him) places (pick me up, drop me home, drive us places). He once held my hand while we were getting into 'mischief' (we like laced our fingers together). We always kiss/hug at the end of the night when he drops me home. He wants to snuggle too, not just do the stuff and dump me homeHe let a HUGE mistake of mine slide: I acted immature about him taking to long to answer a text, and he told me he was 'busy', and I chucked a mini tantrum basically, then felt bad and apologized heaps (pathetic), basically i was all over the shop, and i was sure he'd never want to speak to me again (most guys wouldnt want to, and would just say something like 'fuck off bitch'). but he still spoke to me, and asked me what i was up to (the next day)and put some x's in the text too, and even asked to see me 'tomorrow night' and then was upset (he put a 'sad face' and said 'awwwww why not?') when he found out I already had plans and couldn't come out to see him...Why does he act like this/treat me like this if we are only FwB? What does this mean? (no complaints here, I like how he treats me, just curious as to why...) If you have experience with FwB: is this behavior normal?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 Ok first things first - you are not 'friends with benefits' and I am very pleased at your age that this is the case! FWB is where you basically have no strings attached sex with a friend. So you are not having sex with a stranger, but you are not in a relationship either. So it is basically just sex with someone who you trust, but you have no romantic feelings for.
So you are not in a FWB relationship here, this is just 'seeing each other' as you have said yourself. It sounds like you both like each other, and are simply in the early stages of dating. Give it a few more weeks and I'm sure you will be boyfriend and girlfriend!
It definitely sounds like he likes you, but his feelings are just developing slowly. There is nothing wrong with 'seeing' someone or dating, you dont have to jump into a relationship right away. So just enjoy what you have now, and keep your fingers crossed that he keeps on liking you more and more, and then you will be boyfriend and girlfriend.
You are overthinking a bit too much and just need to relax, enjoy dating him and take it slowly. It will all work out in time!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011): "Why does he act like this/treat me like this if we are only FwB?" Why not? It's nice to be nice to people and isn't that what friends do?
"What does this mean?" Nothing at all, honestly don't assume anything if you want to take this to the next level then ask him but please don't read too deeply into his behaviour he is just being nice and it means nothing at all. If he wanted to be your boyfriend then he would have asked for that instead of FWB's.
"If you have experience with FwB: is this behavior normal?" Yes, it's the way you do things when you respect your fuck buddy. It's just a sign of respect OP, he respects you and even though you're not his girlfriend he wants to treat you right. That's all. He's just getting in some practice for when he finds another girl that he wants to be with in a real relationship.
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reader, Sjroller14  +, writes (26 April 2011):
 to me it sounds like your nothing like FwB. to me it sounds like your bf and gf you guys just haven't labeled it.... Sort of like an open relationship which isnt very good.
I've nevver known any of my fwb to get as intense as you 2.
so talk to him about making it official.
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