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writes:I've been in an relationship since october 2009. I'm white, and my boyfriend is from Bangladesh. I love him deeply, he's the most amazing person I have ever met, he always makes me laugh,he's so sweet and kind it's almost unbelievable. but i have some underline issues one is he told me not to tell his uncle and his uncle wife about us even though im very friendly with them and go to there house quite alot as he lives with them to he been over here since 1984 he works in his uncle restaurant so i only manage to get to seem once a week on his day off as he work day and night. he brought me a costume ring for christmas and some purfume for valentine day. i even went around there on eid murbarak and they brought me some of there clothes to wear.So why does he not want them to know is it because unsure of where the relationship might go and he wants to be a 100%.Also his uncle wife has falling pregent and she has told me her husband and her sister and no one else and told me not to tell anyone which i have not and have not even told my boyfriend. i they testing my trust for him etc do they know or suspect. i dont know what to do please help
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reader, called Steve +, writes (19 February 2010):
 Sounds to me like one amazing conspiracy against you... I hope I'm wrong but by looking at the facts he loves you - but not more than his family and he is weak.
In your position I'd tell him that you will tell them all if he doesn't about the relationship but prepare to lose him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): To be horribly honest people from the subcontinent are still a bit racist. They are pushed quite hard to only marry their "own kind". It is frowned upon to marry anyone else.
So I dont like your chances of developing this relationship, but only you know what is important to you.
I feel that you have to be open and honest, its time for him to tell his family
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): Im suspecting that in his culture it is not acceptable to have a girlfriend without being married and that is why he doesn't want them to know. I think that you are not supposed to be introduced to the rest of the family (and by that I mean the entire family) until after marriage.
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reader, happy140  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 A traditional wedding is arranged by Ghotoks (matchmakers), who are generally friends or relatives of the couple. The matchmakers facilitate the introduction, and also help agree the amount of any settlement.
In Bengali Muslim marriages another settlement to make which is called 'Mahr' or 'Kabin' to be paid by the groom to the bride - which is a religious requirement.
Bengali weddings are traditionally in four parts: the bride's gaye holud, the groom's gaye holud, the wedding ceremony, and the reception. These often take place on separate days. The first event in a wedding is an informal one: the groom presents the bride with a ring marking the "engagement" which is gaining popularity. This can sometimes be considered as Ashirwaad.
A Bengali Hindu Marriage can be divided into the following parts:
IS THERE A NEED TO SAY MORE????
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