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writes:Sex means nothing to me. I'm scared I'm going to find this amazing guy who won't want sex. It's an awful feeling but despite thinking this, it still means nothing to me, at all. But I think I'll feel really bad if I find a guy who wanted sex with the right person and I just slept around. Should I just wait for it or do what I want? Reply to this Question
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reader, SaphiraGold16 +, writes (19 February 2010):
 Trust me;
WAIT FOR THE RIGHT PERSON!
sex might seem like nothing to you now but in the future you'll meet a great guy who you'll love and you'll want to give everything to including yourself physically.
xoxo
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reader, androiddoll  +, writes (19 February 2010):
you're too young to be so closed on the topic that sex means nothing. In a relationship, when you are ready, it's a way to get even closer on a physical and intimate level. Rarely will you find a guy who will not want sex. I just hope you don't break up with an amazing guy because he "wants" you. Don't feel though like you have to use sex as a mean to keep him if you are not ready, and he is not willing to wait, or he is not worthy of you. It's good youre not promiscuous, but dont close off the possibilities yet for when you get older. hope this helps. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): Sex really isnt all that important, the relationship is.
Dont worry about that, you are still young and all that can wait. Just focus on school and having fun with your friends.
I didnt date at all in high school, and to be honest, I dont regret it much. I had fun, i played sport and hung out with my friends....teen years well spent i think
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reader, MissSasha +, writes (19 February 2010):
 First off, I do not recommend random acts of intercourse. I believe that most people who "hook up" with random guys and gals frequently are looking to feel complete, fulfilled or drown an issue that they may be dealing with in their lives. Promiscuity is like alcohol, it's only a quick fix to a never-ending problem. It will not heal you or make you feel any better than you did before. Just a word of wisdom for the people who believe it is helping them in some form or another.
By waiting you will feel better in youself
From MissSasha 15
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2010): I think you should ask yourself why sex doesn't mean anything to you. Yeah, sleeping around shows that you don't care about sex as anything but fun to do. But there will come along a person later in your life who will want not sex, but to make love to you. And he could get put off by your number of sexual partners since it show that you dont think sex means anything.
I am also positive that even if sex means nothing to you at this point in your life, it will mean a lot later or when you meet the right person and learn what sex can be like when it has meaning.
Try to take a time-out from sex for now and just think what it is that makes you think this way about sex. Have you been abused? Sorry if that was random, but many victims of sexual abuse sleep around a LOT because they don't know how to cope with it otherwise, because what should have been special has been ripped away from them and taken by force. If you have been raped or sexually abused, know that it is very likely the reason for why you dont feel sex is anything special.
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