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anonymous
writes:I have been with my fella for 2 years now, and love him more than anything! it started off great, we were the perfect couple, everyone was jealous... as we saw eachother everyday for a whole year, n still missed eachother when we werent together, my firends loved him and i got on rly well with his mates too!!But then i moved away for university after a year. At first it wasnt a problem, then bout 5months later i was talking to a mate of his online, who questioned whether we were still together, i answered yes, as to me we were stil going strong and nothing had changed except the distance... it turned out my bf had been tellin al his mates we split weeks ago etc.... even though we hadnt!! he then began hangin out wit his ex girlfriend, which i cant stand and he knew how much it would upset me... so i called things off!!The next month when i was back home from university, he wanted to meet up and said how sorry he was etc... so we got back together - which his mates hated and made hell for us, then when i went back to uni he started being weird and distant again, so we split - (which his mates cheered about) and its been going like this for the past 7months!!I love him and cant let him go, even through his hurting me soo much, and lowered my self esteem massivly!!We split and didnt talk for nearly 2months, then whan i went home a few weeks ago for my mates birthday, he was there... it was great, we got back together and still are now.... except his finding every bit of evidence that were still together from everyone, and i dont no why... everytime i ask his suddenly got to go or something...I just dont understand why his mates hate me so much and why he is so ashamed of me... because i then start blaming myself thinknig im not good looking enough or too fat etc... n its slowly killing me!!!HELP!!!
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reader, Lonely Gal x +, writes (12 December 2009):
Thanks guys... your feedback has helped alot, its just i aint sure his hidin me 2 be able 2 play around, as his not dat kinda guy, he was 19 when we first began datin, n was a virgin, n when he goes out, he doesnt go out 2 pull, his obliovous 2 girls being around him... honest i knew him abit b4, n he doesnt go out 2 pull.... his more bothered about what his mates think, n thats what is ruining our relationship.... i just cant understand why his mates hate me soo much, n are prepared 2 split us up, den let der mate be happy with a girl he loves.... it just doesnt add up ????
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 December 2009):
Allow me to introduce you to the male mind. When he's away, it's convenient for him not to have a girlfriend so he can be with other girls. When he's near, he has you. There's nothing wrong with you at all. He's just a very selfish immature young man. The answer is to forget about him, because he won't change. You deserve better, and you can find better.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (7 December 2009):
Darling, this is not about you, it is all about him and his selfishness! He is not hiding you from his friends because hes ashamed of you, he is hiding you because he wants to be able to check out and hook up with other girls while still having a gf.
This is not ok. You deserve so much more.
Dont continue to put up with this. You can do alot better, do you not know that? Start believing it.
This guy is not good enough for you!
He only cares about himself, no one else. You deserve to be wit ha caring guy.
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