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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello, I would really appreciate some help, particularly from a man's perspective.I have been seeing a guy at work and we have been getting on well until recently. I have noticed that he has become distant - he used to be the one who would email me in the morning and always compliment me. This has trailed off and it feels that whenever I email him, he is not as responsive as he used to be. We met up at least once a week outside work but the last three times, he has let me down. He leaves it until the last minute and just sends me a text to apologise and say that he can`t make it. I was ok with it the first two times but the last time, I called him and let rip. I ended up turning my mobile off and completely ignoring him when I saw him at work. I felt really childish doing this but he called me three times the next night and I just didn`t answer.Eventually, we had a chat about it and he said that because he didn`t have his car and he has stuff going on, he couldn`t come and see me. I thought that this was a really lame excuse but he didn`t get why I was angry. He didn`t even send me a text on my birthday. I was going to end it with him but he talked his way out of it and he now has his car. He wants to come and see me now but I have told him I was busy this weekend so he said that he will come and see me next week. I said that I would see because I don't want to make plans with him because I am scared that he will let me down again. He knows how I feel about broken plans and I have told him that if he doesn't show up again then that's it and I will have to end it because I am not a walkover.I just want to know what goes on in men's minds and does it look like he is just being a player? I hate the fact that I didn't even like him that much in the first place but now I really like him and just want to be treated with a little bit of respect. Should I back off and let him chase a bit or should I just bite the bullet and leave??
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 June 2010):
Leave him. When a man is always cancelling, or is always late, then he's not worth your time. Let this one go, and find a better guy.
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