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writes:I have been in a relationship for almost 1 year with my guy. We both have previous marriages and have dealt with a lot of "Drama" from both sides over the past year. Our sex life is great! Every night.. and sometimes more than once in a night. Lately (about 2 months now) he has been asking me what i feel are very strange questions during sex. Things like "would you like another cock in you" "would you give my brother a blowjob" "do that to me the way you used to with your other boyfriends" etc etc. Usually he is a very jealous guy. He does not like me going out with friends without him, he will not tolerate me talking to ex-boyfriends, he seems so insecure in the every day things.. but then in the bedroom he "Seems" like he is turned on by asking me about other men. I never give him a straight answer and am wondering if things are going in a bad direction.... help!
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 Are most of these questions actually during sex? Does he ask you strange things at other times as well? When you hear things involving his brother or your sister.... that's just starting to go over the line.
Testing is a possible explanation, but if it's in the midst of sex that's when his guard is down and he could be saying things that he'd normally hold back. It could possibly be his deep down desires coming out...
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 I think asking about his brother is really weird. Telling you to do things like you did to an ex just confuses me and I don't know what to make of it. And the asking about another 'cock in you', well the weird factor their would depend in my mind if he was meaning at the same time as his, or with him totally seperate from the situation.
If the latter was the meaning, then yep, odd, ... if however he was trying to ascertain if you would take on 2 at once, well then he might be trying to sound you out for a threesome before deciding if it is something he could propose or not.
Scary part of that is, not the threesome, but that either way, with or without him, sounds like he might be wanting his brother to be in on the action - and that would be weird.
Heard of close family, but c'mon, that's a bit too close and creepy.
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reader, Keira9312 +, writes (30 April 2010):
 You need to tell him the truth; which is that you have never had sex with another guy. He might pretend not to believe you, but he will seem visibly happier around you. Based on what you've explained, it sounds like he has sex with you a lot because he thinks that you have been with other men. This convinces him that he has to make you feel good in order to keep you. That is the sign of an uncomfortable jealousy issue. All you need to do is tell him the truth, and ask him to stop remarking those statements.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 I think you should ask him to stop asking you these questions. Based on him getting jealous in the past, it sounds like he is digging for reasons to get jealous again. It's like he's asking you to screw up so he has something to crisify you over. And planting the evidence on you.
I say either have him stop it, or test him back. Could be he has grown more comfortable with you over the last year and now has enough trust in you to open up a bit and ask you these things. So you could try giving him an honest answer next time he asks.
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reader, maybeitsme78 +, writes (29 April 2010):
maybeitsme78 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere has been a lot of strange things...and it just gets wierder and wierder each time it seems. Started with things like ..."we should have a 3 some"..."i would love to see you with another woman"...then it went into things that involved me being with his brother...then him with my sister...then he started asking me when was the first time i ever gave a blowjob, and how many guys i have been with...and now its just crazy talk all the time. I really do NOT have the desire to be with more than one man, but i am unsure if he asking because it turns him on, or if he is testing me....just to see what i will say. So, so far i have not really said anything...and i do get a little uncomfortable when he wants to know about other men in the past. ?!?!?
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reader, TimmD +, writes (29 April 2010):
Yeah, that definitely sounds weird. He shouldn't be saying those things unless he gets off thinking about you with other men... be it with him or without.
Maybe not quite a red light, but definitely a yellow for PROCEED WITH CAUTION.
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