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writes:There usto be a group of us then we all split up because of big arguments.She is a quiet girl but it's like when theres an argument between the gang and we all split up she still speaks to everyone. If i go gossiping to her she doesnt seem botherd, like if i ask her a queston about sum1 she says I don't know i really dont want to get involved i ask why and she says its abit immiture she will never go back to them and say what we've been saying about them and she never tells us what thev been saying about us. Evan though i try and get it out of her. She's not much of a drama person i hardly ever see her in arguments unless someones got a problem with her or somthing. And when i get home and look on facebook everyones bitching about everyone on their status and she writes nothing about it.It may sound as if im trying to get her invoved with the arguments but what i'm trying to say is is she not coping with us all? I somtimes think is she uncomftable around it?
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reader, Kiera12345 +, writes (15 October 2010):
She is being very sensible and i think you should follow in her footsteps and try to get on with everyone, if you feel that you cant get on with everyone well then maybe start hanging out with some other people and make some new friends.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (15 October 2010):
 She's Switzerland, she's neutral. Smart girl, doesn't want to dabble in the group's drama but will still be a friend and lend an ear if you need to talk or vent. But stop trying to get the he said, she said out of her because she's not going to tell you.
Now, if you want to be friends with everyone, I suggest you apologize and let bygones be bygones...and quit the gossip, or the he said, she said games..then you will be drama free and have all of your friends back even though they're not friends with one another.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (15 October 2010):
 I think your friend is doing what you all should be doing. That is not gossiping, fighting, and being petty. She has maintained these friendships because she doesn't get involved. People vent to her because they know they can trust her. It gets old being everyone's dumping ground. It also gets old hearing people bitch and complain about your friends. I could completely see why she would start to get uncomfortable.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 October 2010):
You said it yourself. She thinks the arguments are immature and won't get involved, and she's not a drama person. She's not uncomfortable about it. She's just mature enough to realize that all these arguments between so called friends are a total waste of everyone's time, along with the gossip.
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