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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:so this guy in campus has been making eye contact and smiles but that's just it.he never tried to speak to me.and whenever we looked at each other like for few secs he continues to look until I look away.after that I noticed his friends stare at me,smile and lightly make some sounds as if they were teasing him.once during our exams I came back to the place I usually sit (maybe even this guy knows where I will be) and found this guy sitting along with his friends directly opposite and staring(again not a word spoken).and when I brushed off all this thinking I might be reading too much into it and stopped looking at him he tried to get me to notice him.he used to stand or walk close,say something loud or stand in my line of sight .I'm a shy girl but this guy doesn't seem to be shy then why is he doing all this?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (12 October 2010):
Hello again. If you were looking at him before, then stopped looking, perhaps he could take that as a sign you weren't interested anymore.
Everyone needs a little encouragement, and the best encouragement for a young man is to see a lady make eye contact with him from time to time. Don't stare. Just kind of look at him (hold his gaze for a few seconds), then just look away. Then do it again after a few minutes.
After doing this a couple of times, you could add a little smile on one of the occasions (once you have caught his eye), just to let him know you are definitely interested.
Yes, his feelings would still be the same. The fact you stopped looking at him for a short time, won't worry him. Although he might be wondering if you still feel the same way about him.
So start looking. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Good luck, and just relax and be yourself.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Yeah sure you just need to pluck up the courage to start a conversation with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u so much!!!!!!!
do u think he will still like me or be interested in me,even after i have avoided looking at him??????
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (10 October 2010):
Hmm its hard to tell maybe he likes you or maybe he is just being nasty and teasing you either way just try not to pay attention to him and see if he speaks to you, or else try and pluck up the courage to speak to him just say hi or something
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reader, Dorothy Dix +, writes (10 October 2010):
Hi there. He doesn't appear shy, only because he is with his friends and finds safety in numbers - like most young men his age would.
It definitely seems that he likes you also, otherwise he wouldn't be looking at you. A sure sign of two people liking each other, is always that they regularly make eye contact with each other. So you can take it that the feeling is mutual.
Instead of just looking at him, why don't you walk past him when you are going to class, and just smile and say hi. It's taking "looking" one step further, and it's also showing him that you like him and would like to become friends. It will give him some encouragement to walk up to you and actually start talking to you.
The reason he doesn't come up to you himself, is that he probably has a fear of rejection - like most men do (of all ages). He wouldn't like to come up to you and you say "get lost". In any case, there's no doubt there's at least a spark of interest between you - that's obvious.
By walking past him, smiling and saying hi, or not saying anything (and just similing), is a very good start to a new friendship between you.
Just relax, you can do it. The rest will be easy, you'll see.
Hope this helps you. Take care and best wishes.
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