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writes:Why do women fake being pregnant. Twice in my life (not now) I've had girl fake that they are pregnant with my child. I've called them out each time. One was normal girl, who I would never expect that behavior from. She was a fling of sorts but a cool chick....and I know she wanted a relationship, and I always had told her there was never going to be one, even before we hooked up...but you know women, they think they can change you......I was always nice to her though....So she comes to me and tells me she's pregnent I called her out on it........About a month later tried to tell me the test said she was but then she got her period...mmmmhmmmmmmmmThe other fling was crazy....(my mistake :(But she went crazy when I left town and tried everything up and down to keep me in her life...oh she was nuts.....so then she calls me and tells me she's pregnent, I pressed her for questions, and she stumbled...she wasn't pregnant...never had a kid.So why do women do this?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (21 June 2010):
 OP,"why women fake being pregnant "?... That's like asking
"why women hit their husbands with a hammer " or "why women run away with the pastor of their curch " :).
Not all women do that. Not most. Not many. Just a very scant minority .
I have heard of cases like yours, but never met one personally, and this having lived longer than you , and met tons of different people everywhere.
If you met two such women in such a short span of time- it means you are hanging out with the wrong type of people and you should perhaps be more selective in your choice of sexual partners.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 June 2010):
I'm sorry to the female respondents. I love you all, but there is no way that he can shoulder the blame for them coming to him to claim they're pregnant. They were up for casual sex as much as he was, so it's upon their heads when they start to get feelings. In the same way that it would be if a woman used a man and the man started to get feelings. It's not like the OP lied to them. He made it clear he wanted no relationship. Now it is true that one of the two women did, but she had the choice to stop and she didn't. But there is no way that they had the right to come to him claiming they were pregnant. That's not on and shows other women in a bad way.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Well maybe in the beginning, things were equal, but somewhere along the way, they began to have feelings for you, beyond the wild sex. This is usually where things get sticky. Just because you are still in that casual sex place, does not mean they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): Alot of women actually don't do this. Alot of it depends on where you are at in your life and what you want out of it. Some women have a good head on their shoulders, they have lots of dreams and ambitions and will probably treat you with the same respect she might want you to give her. Which if she has alot going for her, or she is mentally respectful and intelligent she is going to want someone who respects her and might have very good communication with and avoid this kind of mishap.
Other women don't have much going for them in their life. Perhaps their dreams in life revolve around having a guy around. Maybe they don't have enough going for them or they are not looking in the right places so they have trouble meeting the "right" guy. Maybe their self esteems are shot. And above all they feel it is very important to have a guy in their life, maybe they were raised that way so they don't know anything else. So they might feel like they need to resort to just about any tactics to try to trap one. Maybe it is something they have een their friends do, parents, etc.
You are a product of your surroundings. So if this is the type of woman you generally dated then perhaps you can associate to some extent with their rationale? Don't you think? I would think so...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUhmmmm to the femlae respondants...I just want to say...These women wanted sex just as much as I did. In fact, they pursued me! They used me as much as I used them...... It takes two to tango ladies.....let's not forget..
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (21 June 2010):
Women who want to keep a man for more than a one-night stand, sometimes resort to this tactic. Also keep in mind, one or both may have simply been really "late" and thought they were pregnant, only to discover ther hormones just delayed their periods by a bit. I think the answer to your question is obvious. Both women cared enough about you, to want to make a life with you. Too bad you only wanted to play the field. If you intend on using women in the future, and tossing them aside when you get bored, you may find others who try this tactic, and God forbid, may actually end up pregnant by a man who thinks so casually of them.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 June 2010):
Desperation. That's what is it. Neither woman wanted to lose you, so they lied hoping you'd come back. But if if I were you, I'd look at the women you're picking. I've never met a woman like this before. I'm pretty sure most women don't do this. You need to look at your type. You might be picking unstable women.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (21 June 2010):
 Most women don't do this, but the ones who do do it to obligate the guy to stay in their lives or to "hold on" a bit longer.
However, there's one thing that bothers me about what you wrote:
"One was normal girl, who I would never expect that behavior from. She was a fling of sorts but a cool chick....and I know she wanted a relationship, and I always had told her there was never going to be one, even before we hooked up"
If you knew that she wanted a relationship and you didn't, why did you hook up with her? You USED her hope that maybe you'd change to get into bed with her, then tried to dump her when you got what you wanted from her.
I don't condone lying about pregnancy, but what you did was worse.
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