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writes:My best girl friend and I walk home from school almost every day and about 3 weeks ago we started holding hand and arms round waist when walking. Then she told me she had a bf so what was the point of all of the holding hands and being close? Reply to this Question
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reader, JDinCali  +, writes (18 February 2011):
 If she's been a good friend to you, she might not be playing games.
Maybe you should ask her if there's anything going on. Sometimes when people reach out for a hug they're saddened by something in their lives. Maybe something's not right at home or with her boyfriend? ...if she says she's ok, then ask her again the next time she wants a hug; just in case she was putting on a fake smile trying to be strong, (or maybe she didn't want you to get upset over boyfriend issues; avoiding possible drama). Eventually, if something is going on she'll say something.
You could always ask her boyfriend if everything is ok. You don't have to mention the cuddling, but you could say you noticed she's being a little insecure at the moment. If he shrugs you off, you know he's guilty and doesn't want to talk about it. He should act concerned.
Hope all goes well.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (18 February 2011):
 to be honest it sounds like she was satisfying her need to be desired. if this kind of touching is what friends do why was it necessary to inform you she has a boyfriend? because she knows what she has been doing could mislead you.
some people will mess with their friends heads to satisfy their own ego trip, thats just how things are sometimes.
move on from this situation and find someone who doesn't play games
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2011): She may just be a tactile or touchy feely type of person. It doesn't necessarily mean she sees you in a romantic way, she may she just comfortable enough around you to act like that.
If she does any more than holding hands then you need to speak to her because that would be inappropriate if she has a boyfriend.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (18 February 2011):
I'm sorry but you are too young. That could mean anything, literally. She can be affectionate with you even when she sees you as her friend (strictly). Or she can be playing with you. Or maybe she's playing with her boyfriend, or both of you.
I guess you like her for something more than a friendship. In that case you should let her know as soon as possible. And ask her to be very clear about what she's thinking. As long as you let her play that game, chances are you will get hurt.
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reader, authenticgal +, writes (18 February 2011):
You really got to ask her because we can't speak for her. I'm thinking, maybe she wants and enjoy the attention? Maybe she sees you as a brother? IDK. I do that only when I consider someone as my brother.
Different answer for everyone.
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