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writes:i am 22 years old,. i have a 7month old with my boyfriend of 5 years. i am torn in what to do cause i dont want to break up my family but i feel like i cant do this anymore. here is why, my boyfriend is very controlling and thinks that i am cheating on him. i barely go out cause i am at home with the baby and even before the baby i barely went out. he goes out whenever he wants though, and he takes my money from me cause he says i owe him from when i wasnt working, keep in mind i was pregnant and watching a brother that had a stroke and going through a recovery. just yesterday he told me that he did cheat on me and that he doesnt want this to work.. i dont know if this was anger. today he called and said he cant help the way hes thinking. so here i am sitting back and taking all of us while i DID NOT cheat on him. i have nowhere to go i have a baby, no money. and i never thought id have to break up my new family. any advice?
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reader, jupa17  +, writes (22 September 2008):
Reading over your question brings awful saddness to me, i can really feel your entrapment and sense of hopelessness.
Its always easier to comment on a situation looking from the outside in but its much harder for you to trust any advice given to you, you need to listen to what your asking, which is for re-assurance. Re-assurance that your doing the right thing, you seem doubtful about taking your child away from the family environment you've established with your partner, think of the benefits of moving on with your child & how much more of a stable future you can/could give him without your partner in the picture?
Your partner needs to get his act together and realise that it is his child too, if there is any chance of reconciliation he needs to see the family as a unit, he should not fiscally seperate you or your child from himself.
I hope you find the advice helpful but i have to say you really need to prioritise your child and yourself. Try look at the situation from a logical rather than emotional perspective
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