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writes: hi, i'm going through a divorce and have met a man whom i got very strong body laguage signs that he was interested in me. i just moved into the same neighborhood as him, he's single with a kid he's raising. i guess i'm not sure if i feel like i should be getting involved or not with someone who lives in the same neighborhood as me if it didn't work out, i'd probably feel uncomfortable running into him. he has to drive by my house to bring his daughter to school. but tell me why do i feel that people treat you differently when you get divorced,expecially when you weren't the one who wanted out! i'm still the same person, i especially get bad vibes around married women, does this feeling ever go away?
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (29 January 2006):
 A divorced woman is seen (by tradition and stereotype) to be predatory and manipulating. This is not to say thats what they are, just the way they have been portrayed and that is regardless of why they are divorced!
There are two issues here, the guy you like and the way you are viewed.
If he has shown indications he likes you what harm can there be in going our on a couple of dates and taking things really REALLY slowly until you know if it is going anywere? Nothing ventured nothing gained and all that!
As for the alleged threat you impose on married women's marriages this is something I ahve heard my Mum talk about in the past after her divorce and many friends both married and single. You are young, free and single at a time when many marriages can be hitting that slightly *stale* spell were familiarity begins to breed..... Women can see you as a threat soley 'cos of this, even if you have shown no interest in their hubby's whatsoever!
This is no fault of yours and it will apss. But I tell you this is you lose any friends because of this they weren't very good friends to begin with, were they?
I hope life treats you better and wish you all the best in you future.x
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reader, fairyangel  +, writes (29 January 2006):
 The married women around you clearly see you as a threat!
This means that they are insecure within themselves and their marriages!
This could unfortunately mean that life could get very lonely for you, as these women cut you off and avoid being friends with you.
I am speaking from experience... we lived in a small town 2 years ago, where everyone was suffering from what I call "small town syndrome"...
When we arrived in town, the women we came into contact with avoided my daughter, then aged 20, and myself... and clung onto their husbands and boyfriends for dear life!!
This purely because they saw us both as a threat...
which goes to show, that sometimes it is downright difficult when you actually have a great personality and good looks to go with it!
The men might enjoy your company, but you will find that the women turn into bitches overnight!
This single dad you know, sounds like a good guy, why not follow up on his bodylanguage he is directing your way...
You might find some happiness there, and at the same time get the jealous bitches off your case!!
Take Care & Good Luck!
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