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writes:I'm 23 at uni and I get depressed when I see most people in relationships at university and get into them fairly easily. I have no problem asking women out (though I used to until recently) but then I seem to struggle to get into the relationship phase. It is depressing as I seem to think that there is something wrong with me particularly as my longest relationship has been 1 month.I don't think I don't too much or too little attention to my last girlfriend/dates. I haven't a clue where I'm going wrong. My only conclusion is that having dated 5 women in my life, its because I haven't had much experience or number of dates.Why do some people get into relationships easier than others and what could I do to better myself as a person.
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (16 December 2010):
Don't base yourself on experience, but on your overall interactions with others. Do you have regular friends who are girls? How do you interact with them?
Its much easier to take a girl out and get to know her as a friend until you feel there is a connection. Its all about pacing. Rarely can someone just go up to a girl, ask her to get a drink, then be making out with her immediately. The movies may lead you to believe its done like that, but its mostly false.
Keep trying at it and eventually the interactions will become natural. Its all in your head, honestly. Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): It's mostly to do with luck man.
Really, people will give you lots of reasons why or why not. But at the end of the day it's down to luck. There so many reasons why people don't click and end up long term, or circumstances that can't allow for that etc etc
At the end of the day you have to keep trying, that's all it is. Some people get lucky and find a girl immediately others have to date ten women to find a long term one.
Don't worry about it just keep trying.
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