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writes: why do some men play games?? they say they like you, u say u like them now the more u try to talk to him, the more he baks away but the more i bak away the more he acts interested...im tired of the circles..he knws i like him..we miles away right now but im movn bak home where he is in a couple months so i thought we should stay in contact now to get to know each other..but how do i do that when he dnt? and then when i dnt he does??????????????wtf?? do i just tell him how im feeln the frustration? or do i play my part til i find out if he worth my time or not?? i hate playn games and i dnt want to play because someone else it..what do i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (29 December 2010):
this man seems like he has some psychological problmeshe deosnt woth your time or attentionget rid of him and find someone who knows what he wantsand behaves like a man
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto the anonymous female reader 29( wow)..all I can say is thank you!! thats all I can say because you left me speechless..im no dummy and I admit you're absolutely right, I quess by u bein so blunt made it hard to ignore the truth..and i knew that already sumtimes its hatd to see when you're the one in it...thank u so much!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u for the advice both of you..I have to go with the male point of view on this one because i dnt want to play a game with him and space away so he can chase me,I do not want to change who I am for a guy to be intrested in me..im tired of wasting time on men who dnt knw what they want. and i do believe that man knows best on a situation like this. cause its closer to home. within another man. thank u for that i really like him but you're right i dnt need to deal with him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2010): So you want to stick around just until you find out if he is worth your time or not? You say there is this balance of power, this push and pull between you both that makes it difficult for you to get what you want out of this, which I assume you simply want his unconditional full attention. But you are not getting his full unconditional attention...and you are still wondering if he is worth your time...Well he likes you only when you pull away. Does that sound like someone worth your time? No.
Apart from that what has he done that makes you want to gauge him further. Has he been there for you when you are down? When you are up? Does he live for you? Does he do nice things for you? Does he call you to see how your day has been? Does he bring you pizza and a movie when you are sick? Was he with you for Christmas? Did he get you what you wanted? Does he do favors for you? Does he tell you you are beautiful? Does he want to be involved in your life? Does he care about the things and people you care about?
If you answered yes to all of these then this could be someone worth your time. If you answered no to most of these and to top it off he only pays attention to you when you ignore him then stop wasting your time. You have nothing more to find out about this guy. He just doesn't care. How much more clear can he make it to you?
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 This isn't a game in the same sense as the ones women tend to play. I doubt he's doing it purposely to mess with your head.
He acts interested when you back off because you're more of a challenge. Men like to chase, they lose interest when they feel like they've caught you. Telling him you're frustrated about it will seem needy and might make him lose all interest. Instead, you need to be more distant, let him contact you first a few times. As long as you keep him guessing and don't become predictable, he'll be interested.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (29 December 2010):
 It sounds like he only wants what he can't have, there is excitement in the chase but no pleasure in actually being with the person. I wouldn't deal with this guy any more. Telling him may just give him more power over the situation, don't let him know it bothers you and try to just work him out so that you can meet a guy who really wants to be with you.
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