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writes:why do some guys think all women are hoes?? that sleeps around?? i find is really rude and very disrespectful.cos am not the type so i get offend when guys talk about girls like that Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (2 March 2010):
 Well as you said, only "some" guys think like this, not all of them! So it doesnt really matter why the immature, silly guys think that way because you dont have to waste your time on them. Instead dont talk to guys like that and focus on having positive, happy people in your life.
These guys that talk like this could have a million reasons why they think this way. Maybe they had a bad experience with a girl in the past, when he really cared for her but she slept around behind his back. Maybe he has been brought up this way by his parents? Maybe he is just talking up in front of his friends and trying to act cool?
It really doesnt matter what the reason is - as long as you are happy with yourself and know that your behaviour is not like these girls that they are talking about, then you are in a better position than they are. You have morals and are a decent person, therefore these guys are not talking about you so why do you care?
These guys are allowed to talk this way - after all if they want to express their opinion then that is fine. Just as some girls think all guys are "players" who only want sex - we all know that is not true either but of course everyone is entitled to an opinion regardless if it is correct or not.
Dont let guys like this bother you - they can think what they want but if they carry on like this then they will end up bitter, lonely and unhappy. You know it is not true that all girls are hoes so that is all that matters. You will find plenty of guys out there that dont think this way, and would never dream of calling a girl a hoe. So it really doesnt matter what a small minority of guys think does it!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): I think it depends on a lot of factors, socioeconomic, geographical and their home life. Generally, men who had a strong image of a mother/woman in their direct homelife tend to have a very high and respectful image of a woman. These same type of women gravitate toward men who aren't chauvinist, so the values that there children will learn are high in favor of a women. On the other hand if you have someone who grew up in an extremely chauivnistic household (and yes women can be chauvinistic as well by simply accepting rigid gender roles) then you might get little monsters like the ones you are talking about who talk of women in that way. A large part of it is what they learned at home. Generally, the more educated the family the less likely they will be making ignorant comments like these. But generally, families who are educated are of higher economic status because they can afford the fancy degrees and the extensive years of education. People from families who are not educated tend to uphold the rigid gender roles and repeat ignorant statements and lifestyles like the one you heard, probably because they don't know any better, they are not that educated and that's all they learned from their families. So, in other words, even though its sad, their words should mean nothing to you once you see where its truly coming from; a state of massive ignorance and from generations of inherited oppressive rigid gender roles. If anything we should feel sorry for these people. Doesn't mean you should be their friend! Just mean don't worry what they think or say and thank god everyday you grew up in a household that showed you about love and respect not hate. Its sad how our society gives a stigma and raises awareness about organized hate groups such as the kkk, but everyday chauvinism, in itself a form of hate and cause of much strife for women (some even battered bc of this mentality) is not brought to light or given that much importance in the areas where it happens the most. Maybe you could do something about it in your community, raise awareness. Hope I answered your question. Good luck!
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