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writes:Why do some guys like to stay 'friends' with a former 'friend with benefits'??? I know some of you will say this is for 'back up' but not in all cases. There's this guy who i was friends with and slept with ONCE. He wants to be friends on the telephone but never wants to meet up so i know its not about the 'benefits'!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmmm..thnks for the advice so far- I really do appreciate ppl giving their 'take' on my situation, it really does help so keep em coming!!To kittykhaos. I have asked him outright a few times why he doesnt want to see me and he tries to insult my intelligence by telling me stuff like " cause i'm gonna want to have my wicked way with you and wouldnt want u thinking badly of me!"
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reader, kittykhaos +, writes (13 August 2009):
 I have a very good male friend we slept together once but there was nothing in it. I had just come out of a horrid 5 year relationship and he had just been dumped by the love of his life. We had sex we had fun but we never "got together" as neither of us wanted that but he still hangs out with me n i still go to the pub with him and i still crash over on his sofa.( he now has a g/f and im in love with my best friend so no hidden agenda). There is more to this than is being shown to you. If he wanted to be your friend surly friends see each other in person once in a while. Im not sure what his motive is but its does seem odd, Ask him straight and if he continues with his "phone only" friendship just tell him to get lost.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmm.. Maybe I am struggling with this because he is NOT asking to hook up and I really want him To!! - just being real guys!
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (13 August 2009):
 He likes your conversation and enjoys your friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): Maybe he genuinely likes you as a friend? I had a friend with benefits once, and we continued being pretty good friends afterwards, no hard feelings and as soon as the benefits stopped none of us pushed the subject or felt awkward. We both have partners now, it's all good.
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