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writes:Why do some girls prefer anal sex and others don't? Are some afraid to try it? Or is it deeper than that?
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 OP. I would like to ask you a question.
Why are YOU so obsessed with anal sex? What makes you think that it is a normal thing for women to do?
Because you have seen the women in porn films do it? So therefor EVERY woman must be happy to do it?
This is a very wrong attitude and one that will get you into trouble. Porn is not real. It is a fake. A fantasy created to make money from men. It plays on all the desires and wants of the male ego. A guy being able to penetrate a woman from every available orifice.
I think I can safely say that most normal women (probably 90%) do not like, do not want, and think anal sex is utterly disgusting.
As KC says, the anus was designed to expell material not to be used for sex. There are no pleasure sensors there for a woman, we get no pleasure, just pain. Anal sex is all about the man. Its just another hole to poke. One thats a bit dirty and make them feel more dominant.
I suspect you wouldnt want anyone shoving a large cucumber up your bum, so why do you expect a woman to enjoy it? I would be interested to see your arguments for that.
As for what happens in porn films - some of these women may actually enjoy it. The majority probably do it for the large amount of cash they recieve for perfoming these acts. You have to remember to porn stars sex is a JOB. They sell their body for money. It is not reality.
Real women are not porn stars and we never want to be either. Most real women wouldn't degrade themselves to that level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): I tried it out of simple curiosity.
I guess I'm in the minority who enjoyed it, with clitoral stimulation as well as penetration I was able to reach orgasm.
It's not necessarily as good as vaginal sex, but it's a completely different sensation.
It didn't hurt, we tried it in the shower (and actually tried it more out of convenience seeing as we were in a cramped area and we had to be creative), so that might of been why it wasn't too painful. Who knows.
I hate the stereotype that everyone who tries anal is loose and skanky, though, some of us are just creative and enjoy trying new things. What's the harm in that?
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reader, agonyuncle91 +, writes (10 February 2011):
agonyuncle91 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOP here. I'm not saying I personally am interested in anal but just curious as to why some girls like it far more than others. Thanks for the amazing answers so far!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): it's a preference and quite onestly, extremely painful for the first time, even with lubrication. its not for everyone and to compare to pornstars- you get paid alot more for anal and other miscellaneous not so "vanilla" things- the markets in higher demand. i guess im more confused why there is such a pressure on women to try anal by some guys such as yourself? have you ever tried it? take sometime to experience firsthand the pain and maybe you'll see why some can handle it while others chose not to. p.s. i work inthe adult entertainment industry- i know firsthand the pay difference and anal is up there. haha.
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reader, viccra78  +, writes (10 February 2011):
Hey male reader, anonymous....normal women are not porn stars....if you want on of those skanky women who probably can't count the number of men they have been with, more power to ya!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): Ok from what most of you guys are saying, women in general don't like it, due to it being uncomfortable and painful. Seems quite logical. But why do all women in porn do it so easily? Ok I can imagine that these porn girls might not love it, but they seem to do it with as much enthusiasm as they do other sexual stuff, headjobs, vaginal sex, tit sex and so on. What i mean is, if anal sex would be that bad then wouldn't porn producers have trouble finding girls to do anal? It just looks like that anal sex willing girls are in plentiful supply?
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reader, viccra78 +, writes (10 February 2011):
I am all for anything but here are the rules when it comes to anal. If I get to stick a comparable dildo up your ass FIRST, then I will do it. I think it is only fair that the guy knows what if feels like before getting to stick their dick in there. I haven't had one guy take me up on that offer either...hmmmmm. Wonder why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): They don't find it interesting or some previous guy put it in too fast
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): Why do some girls like vanilla ice cream not chocolate ice cream? Are some just sure that because they don't like chocolate that they won't like chocolate ice cream? Or is it deeper than that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): Simple reason is for a lot of women anal sex hurts and it alwayus hurts. Or if it doesn't they do not get much pleasure from it.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Well its just personal preference! Just like some people love chocolate, others love savory food - each to their own! Everyone is different and it is foolish to think that everyone should like something just because you like it, or others you have known like it too.
Personally (being female) I have tried anal and I really did not enjoy it. I have tried it on more than 1 occasion with 2 different partners and both times found it painful, uncomfortable and a bit gross really. In my opinion that is an exit route, not an entry route! Anything going in that way feels wrong and not at all pleasurable, just simply uncomfortable. Plus it is not worth the discomfort that followed for a couple of days after, so I will happily say I dislike anal and will never do it again.
But that is my personal preference - I tried it and did not enjoy it, therefore why would I want to do it again when it is not pleasurable for me?
If you are wondering why some girls are so opposed to the idea of it and wont even try it - simply because society has led us to believe that a) that anal is mainly a gay activity as this is the way gay men have sex, and b) it is an exit and what comes out of there is not exactly pleasant. Not saying this is right - some people can get a lot of pleasure from anal and good for them. But vaginal sex and stimulating the clitoris is always going to be the most pleasuable experience for a girl in most cases, to a lot of girls it feels like anal is the new fascination for men at the moment seen as they see it in porn on the internet and then want to do it themselves. It is just another hole to you guys, somewhere else to stick it into. Whereas for us girls, the attraction to it is not there!
Think about it - what do girls get out of anal? As I said, some women do enjoy it but that takes practice and time. Men get the 'tighter' feeling which I am sure is the main turn on, but for girls, what do they actually get that they cant get better from oral sex, vaginal intercourse or masturbating?
The reality is there is no real reason why girls want anal sex - there is nothing that turns us girls on by it (some women excluded, I am sure for some it is a turn on but the majority of girls are not that interested in it). It is a fascination for men based on what they have seen in porn, but there is no turn on for girls in anal sex.
So sorry we dont share the mutual interest with this particular hole!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): It's just personal preference. Some people like asparagus , some people don't. Some people like golf, some people don't. Anal sex can be quite painful for the woman, especially the first time, so there may be some women who are reluctant to try it. It's not a natural thing, having something shoved into your ass like that. Think about if it were you - would you be comfortable having something several inches long shoved in and out of your ass repeatedly? I sure as hell wouldn't, and I never intend to.
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