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writes:I've always wondered this and it's getting worse by the months.More and more people tend to be horrible to me and i don't know why. Is it because of the person i am? Or what? People like to afflict pain on me. Why?For example, one of my friends was walking past me and i tried to grab a piece of paper out of their hands, and they just slapped me in my face and continued as normal and didn't say sorry. This hurt me deep inside because that person is generally a nice person that anyone can talk to, and their reaction to me taking the paper was shocking and hurtful.Another example is when i was joking around with my friend. This friend and i have before in the past tried to attach rubbish to each-other. So, i did that to them with my fruit bar wrapper. And then they passed it onto someone else. This someone else then had a go at me saying "if you never did this, they wouldn't have put it on me" and that "you're an immature person". So they pretty much blamed me for the person putting a fruit bar wrapper on their coat. This was such a strong reaction from someone over something small. Just like the first one example. So again, why do people try to prove their right all the time with me?One final example is with one of my teachers. I'm studying a level at the moment. I got a bad result in one of the mini tests at school and was told by the teacher that i have to attend lunch time revision sessions. This was on friday. Then, next week wednesday( by then i hadn't turned up to a session yet) and i told off by the teacher, before lunch, for not going to any. I apologised and that was it. I didn't tell the teacher that i was planning to attend the Thursday session. Then on Thursday, i get told by a friend of mine from my classes that she got told by the teacher that as i haven't been to any sessions i shall be put on report! I went to the session on thursday and he happen to be away! Typical. There was 2 lunch sessions left and i might get put on report for not going to the first 3! And on top of that, he told someone about putting me on report! That's so rude and embarrassing.Why does everyone like to get a reaction out of me?
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (10 December 2009):
 In light of what others have said here and knowing these were only your examples I gather there are other situations too could you please elaborate some more on this situation. Please feel free to PM me.
I feel there is a connection with this through your friend especially the one who stuck the wrapper on anther persons jacket, and especially if they did not get any blame on the matter. So does this friend also have any influence on the reasons why you missed the study sessions?
I look forward to your reply.
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reader, 19queen +, writes (10 December 2009):
 to be honest i think you are doing alot more that you are saying tou are doing, no one would just slap you for taking a piece of paper.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (10 December 2009):
 Ok to address each of these examples individually will show you how this is YOUR problem and not the world being against you.1. You tried to snatch some paper out of someone's hand! Have you ever heard of asking first? Or perhaps some manners? Why did you not just say "please can I have that piece of paper?" - would that have been so difficult? Ok slapping you in the face is a bit harsh and unjustified but I guess they were probably taken by surprise because someone was trying to take some paper from them as they were walking past! So that is entirely your own fault I'm afraid, just be polite and dont snatch things that are not your own, it is just common sense.2. Attaching rubbish to each other - how old are you?! It says 18-21 on your profile, that sort of silly prank is something 10 year old kids would do. Ok joking around can be fun and it wasnt your fault your friend stuck the wrapper on someone else - but they were right in saying you are immature if that is how you behave! Did they have a go at your friend too or just you? That does seem a bit unfair but hey, life is unfair especially when you are a teenager so you just have to get on with it!3. Of course the teacher is going to put you on report - what do you expect when you skip revision sessions?! Basically the teacher saw that you were struggling in that particular subject so in order to stop you failing your A levels she or he suggested that you attend these revision sessions in order for you to get a good grade in your exams. So the sensible thing for you to do would be to realise the teacher is being nice and is trying to help you, after all you dont want to fail do you? So you should have gone to all of these revision sessions but no, apparently you just cant be bothered to turn up and think an apology is enough to justify your apparent lack of care towards your education. It is not your teacher you need to apologise to - after all it isnt their problem when you get rubbish results at A level and cant get into uni/get a job. Its not rude and embarrassing to put you on report - the teacher is doing it so that you get your act together and start studying! It is entirely your own fault for not caring about your education. You cant go though life expecting to not show up to things and you get away with it - you cant exactly not show up to work or uni and expect to apologise and everything be ok - you will either get fired or get kicked off your uni course.So what you need to do is grow up a bit and start taking life more seriously - stop being the prankster and joking around, make more effort with your education so you dont get into any more "embarrassing" situations again and then maybe people might start treating you with more respect. This whole "woe is me, the world is so mean, everyone is out to get me" attitude is not helpful and makes you seem like a whiny teenager. Start acting like an adult and maybe people might start treating you like one.I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): People treat you like that because they know they can get away with it. You have to stand up for yourself. If you think you have been treated poorly say so.....if it is known that there are consequences to not respecting you ppl will think twice before doing it. You have to teach ppl how to treat you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (10 December 2009):
Because you provide a reaction. The answer is, never put yourself in a situation where you end up being hurt. Always make sure you do work, always make sure you're present to do work, and don't play games with your friends. If you give a reaction, they'll do it more. So don't put yourself in that situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2009): Really. You don't see this yourself? You are acting immature and you are rude. Why would you try to take a paper out of someones hands? I don't think slapping you across the face was a good response, but then again I don't know the full situation. I just know that you think it'd perfectly normal and okay for taking paper out of someones hands. Well it's not, it's rude. As for the person attaching rubbish to someone else, yes they are completely childish as well, but you did start it. Try acting adult and you will get adult responses in return.
Even your teacher. You should show th eteacher a lot more respect than you are. Your teacher was concerned for your grades and needed for you to attend these classes which you chose to be a child about and skip. You are adult, so take responsibility. If you do not like attending classes, why are you even in school? You got told to do one thing: attend the extra sessions. That was not a question "will you please" it was an order. And you chose to not go when you were told, and you expect everyone to think thats perfectly okay? You are begging for that teacher to put you on report, and then when they do you cry and complain.
You might think it's rude of the teacher to tell someone they would put you on report. But you were rude as well, not attenting to the sessions you were supposed to, over and over. It shows that you have no respect for the institution and the teachers.
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