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writes:I would just like to know why people have an affair and what exactly do you gain out of it (because to me you just make matters a whole lot worse) so why do it.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 June 2011):
Affairs exist mostly because of emotional problems with a relationship or the person having the affair. Never underestimate how much power the human brain has when it comes to things like love, loneliness, biological factors. If you feel alone in a relationship, or under appreciated, the mind starts to play tricks on you and tells you that having an affair will make it better.
It doesn't. It just becomes a mess. I've been adding this link to any post about affairs lately, because this post shows exactly why affairs are a stupid, ultimately selfish idea that lead to nothing but pain. This post says more about affairs than anything else on this site:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-mum-was-caught-cheating-on-my-dad.html
One woman's selfish act of an affair, and now her daughter just hates her. That may or may not subside over time, but overall the damage is done.
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reader, knaixer  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 You are so right! It doesn't make sense from a logical point of view... However, from an instinct point of view, it make no sense to only stick with one female when you can spread "it" around and your gene survival chance increases too. So that where's the urges came in. When you are in a relationship, you will have the urges to spread it to other woman as well. And all you have to do is just remind yourself that you are human, and the logical make sense in today's society more than the instinct/primitive mind.
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