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writes:Hello,I have been sexually active for four years now and have had a few sexual partners, of which non have been able to give me an orgasm during sex. I mean don't get me wrong, it feels amazing and I do get really turned on, I just don't orgasm... is there something wrong with me? When I go solo, I can make my self orgasm very well! So why can't I orgasm during sex? I hate having to fake an orgasm, I feel like a lier :(Help!!x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): "I hate having to fake an orgasm, I feel like a lier :("Not being harsh, but that is what you are doing. Faking it causes people to do things in sex that don't help, because they think they are doing the right thing and they aren't.Honesty, openness, and willingness to work on it help much more than anything else.Don't be embarrassed. My wife had sex with more people than she can remember before she met me, and I'm the only person who ever made her orgasm from any sexual activity, and then only after nearly 20 years of life together. Faking it and being unwilling to talk about it kept it from happening the first year, and probably for all those years before as well.Trust is important, and if you don't trust the other person you can't do it unless you simply don't care. Avoid drugs and alcohol, both of which can really fuck up your sex life (no pun intended).
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): Don't worry...most women fall into this category. My GF has never had an orgasm from sex, and she has been with 5 guys of all sizes. I can only make her cum from oral, and am the only guy to do that. She tells me she never did with another guy because she just didnt trust them or feel comfortable with them enough. I am trying to find ways to make her orgasm from sex, but she has adapted to love sex just for the act itself, and she says she doesnt need an orgasm. She is truly more into seeing me cum...wierd, I know, but whatever.
Don't fake it. Most guys know women dont orgasm from sex alone. he shouldnt be insulted or feel like a failure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): Not everybody can orgasm via intercourse but you can use sex toys on yourself to help you find your g spot its kinda toward your belly button well thats the best was to describe it, and you will no when you have hit it because of the sensitivity will be unreal. Also when you are with a partner try to never fake an orgasm because the poor guy will then keep doing the same move, thinking that he is making you cum, when in fact he is not, so its kinda deceiving because he thinks he is able to please you each time you have sex. From now on dont fake it, instead show him where to move and what to do, let him explore you until he finds what works for you, i guarantee your sex life will improve. Have fun :)
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