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writes: Why do people care if their partner cheats on them? I mean I wouldn't care less if my girlfriend cheated on me with various men, it's her body so she can do what she wants. As long as the person uses protection I don't see a problem.Humans in this world over-complicate things and are stupid.
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (14 August 2009):
 Some people tolerate open relationships. There's nothing wrong with what you said, what complicates it is not the physical aspects, its the emotional aspects.
It seems human society prefers monogamy because it stabilizes communities, insures familial lines, and keeps families together more often than not.
But people do swing and enjoy it and still maintain a marriage so its not only possible, its probable to do that.
Most people, though, prefer the security of monogamy rather than the uncertainty of polygamy.
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reader, tamika1983 +, writes (13 August 2009):
If u don't care who she sleeps with then u don't care about her. Being with someone is being with them and only them. Maybe u put it that way cause your messing with other females and to keep from feeling guilty u tell her she can do the same. I know u said as long as she uses protection but exactly how safe is protection. As I'm sure u know condoms do pop. What happens when a condom pops and she contracted clymidia or ghonerra not knowing that she had it because she mistaken it as a yeast infection. Your still having sex with her while she's taking monistat but she sees that its not getting better or it gets better and neither of u still don't know. So now u have it. In females the symptoms if any at all are like those of a yeast infection. All I'm saying is there is no such thing as u can sleep with whoever u want to sleep with as long as u use a condom because its pointless. Just be careful and really think about what your saying. The best way to stay std free is to be with one partner especially one that u know is commited to u and only u. GOOD LUCK!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): Adultery is against the law and includes sleeping with another person, but cheating is defined by personal boudriens. You may not care if your significant others sleeps around, but what if she were to get emtionally involved? Woudln't you care?
~Sy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): Its not a matter of his body or her body, its a matter of trust. When most people start a relationship, they consent to be exclusive. They share emotions, feelings and EXPERIENCES that only they can share together. By experiences I mean sex, in case you didn't get that. Not everyone wants an open relationship and also many people are possessive so they don't want someone else having sex with their "one and only."
I trust my girlfriend, she trusts me. I don't want her to sleep with someone else and she doesn't want me to do the same. If she does, it violates what we have agreed to and the trust that we share.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): because a lot of people dont just see a relationship as sex. its something deeper than that, its an emotion, a connection, possibly love. and when you are in a relationship and feel strongly about someone you want them to be faithful. you want them to want you and only you. i know id feel betrayed if my partner slept with someone else. why would he be in a relationship with me if he wanted to sleep around?!?
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reader, Carrie216 +, writes (12 August 2009):
 People care if their partner cheats on them because cheating breaks a promise made to each other.
When you decide to be in a committed relationship with someone, you are acting out of love. And love is about giving. You give pieces of your mind, body and soul to your partner. In return, your partner does the same thing for you. Cheating is greedy. You want more, so you take more.
Something about your partner isn't satisfying you? It's selfish to cheat on them. If you aren't satisfied, break up with them, it spares everyone a lot less tears.
This is just my opinion on it. If you are in an open relationship, meaning it's not exclusive, then it doesn't matter. But if you are in a monogamous relationship, you made a promise to each other that you would be monogamous. And by cheating, you are breaking it. Think of how much that hurts.
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reader, MaryBeth1983  +, writes (12 August 2009):
I agree with you. I think it is a catholic way of thinking (not that it is wrong) that we should have one body shared with another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): actually i don't care about my man having sex... i would say that in that arena we have a very open relationship.. but... you let me catch him calling some other chic in the morning and giving the intimant part of him to someone els.. that is when you will see my blonde face on the news... "chic gone mad"... lol
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