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writes:Can you guys answer me my question. Why does older guys go for younger girls? I am with someone who is 7 year older than me he is 27, 28 this year. We have had so many complications with our relationship. I just sometimes think to myself no wonder this guy is not married or living with someone. Do you think they go for girls who are younger as women their own age wouldnt put up with them?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (9 April 2012):
 Cerberus, I didn't say younger women WERE less hassle just that some guys tend to think they are :)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (9 April 2012):
 You're making a bad generalization about "older" men, which in your post seems to mean "27 year olds", which is not "older" by definition.
What you really need to determine is whether your particular 27 year old is a good guy for you. Don't assume that everyone his age or older thinks or acts exactly the same way and for the same simple reasons.
Now, if you feel that this man has such a bad temper that "this is why he isn't married", then why are you with him?
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reader, MikeEa1  +, writes (9 April 2012):
 I reckon I'm pretty normal. I go for girls who are any age. they just have to be what I want. some have been younger and most have been older. at the moment I am keen on a woman who is much younger. I worry about the age difference. everything else is right. the fact that she is younger is my biggest worry. its just one of many factors. if 8 or 9 or even 7 out of 10 are right it might be a good relationship. don't ask me how you figure all this out. I think it sort of goes through your mind when you're matching up. there's no checklist in my case. its a sort of evolvement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2012): Why do younger women go for older men?
The attraction runs just as strongly the other way, at least at young ages.
It's called evolution. Women are most fertile at a young age, but men are the best fathers at a slightly older age because they have had time to establish themselves better in the world by then. Everyone expects men to be bigger money earners than women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2012): Oh and Honeypie younger girls are far more demanding and way more hassle. They either still are or have just been teenagers after all. You can't get more demanding than that.
The joys of older women is not just that they know what to demand to have their need met but they also know what they don't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2012): "Why does older guys go for younger girls?"
I hate to be blunt, not politically correct and these aren't all my own feelings on the matter but they're reasons:
They're generally better looking than women in their late 20's and 30's. Better bodies, younger/cuter faces, have more zest and pep. Why do you think older women spend billions each year on products to keep themselves looking young?
They're more open to casual sex.
Easier to woo because women with experience know what they want and how to get it.
Easier to wow. Things are still fresh and new for them so all the old tricks work a treat.
More sexually adventurous than an older woman who already knows what she likes and doesn't like.
Less cautious when it comes to love than a woman with experience.
More prone to infatuation and less protective of their feelings because they haven't experienced enough of it.
Less guarded and more open about their lives because they have less baggage.
More easily dropped because very few older guys are stupid enough to think it would work in the long run and therefore they don't become emotionally invested.
All of the above combine to make the older guys feel dominant, more manly etc.
In my experience there is a power to being with a younger woman that is denied to you by an older woman. Most guys want to have a certain sense of domination in a relationship whether that's minor or major and older women are less likely to give that especially to guys who aren't physically big or mentally don't feel that strong.
One of the biggest of all though is that they're "unsoiled" they're less likely to have spent 5 years getting the shit beaten out of them while hoping that guy would change, they're less likely to have a deep seated suspicion of men, or bitterness brought about by past failed relationships.
Far less likely to desperate too because they still have time on their hands.
In that sense you get a sexually adventurous girl, willing to learn, open to love, easy to get but a bitch to maintain.
OP the reason I've mostly dated younger women is because I look very young for my age and women my age don't give me a second look. I've always been really short, I used to be very skinny, had a baby face and long hair. Up until my mid-twenties when I could finally grow a beard people literally thought I was still a young teenager.
There are just as many negatives too. In fact all of the above apply to older women but in different ways.
For example, they'll be less sexually adventurous but their experience makes them far better in bed.
Knowing what they want from a relationship makes it easier to be with them because because things come naturally, relationships with older women are far less work.
"Do you think they go for girls who are younger as women their own age wouldnt put up with them?"
A lot do yeah but it depends on the specifics OP. There are some very major obstacles to overcome when in age gap relationship. Two very different stages in life. You at the start, him ready to settle etc.
As Honeypie said, if this guy is not someone you feel other women would put up with, then why are you putting up with it? Just because you're young doesn't mean you can't be smart.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 April 2012):
I think there are a myriad of answer to that question.
It depends on the guy of course, but also some of it is pure instinct - younger woman - more fertile - less hassle - less demands and on top of that it makes the guys feel "wiser" and "smarter". ( Or plain superior intellectually and experience wise)
For others it's just the fact that they aren't very mature themselves and they are just better matched with a younger woman.
Let's not forget the ones who are ignorant enough to think they can can "groom" or mold a young woman into the perfect companion.
Then you have the guys who like the younger women because they have less baggage and are less set in their ways.
You also have the guy who think age is just a number and they go for a person who's personality, looks whatnot is what they want.
And last but not least, I think some see them as more "pure".
There are, I AM SURE many other reasons.
If you feel the relationship is uneven and not in your favor, then maybe it is not right for you.
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