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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is very aggressive when we have sex and I'll admit that I am too, but I want it to go farther. It's almost like i want him to rape me... There must be something wrong with me for me to want something like that. He doesn't want to and I don't think that I actually want him to rape me but I have no idea what would make me want something even close to that. Girls fear being raped and it is a horrible experience for women... So why do I want it to happen to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): Relax you're fine as everyone else has stated this is actually very common. I think it has a lot to do with the dominance factor. You want to feel like your boyfriend wants you so badly he's just going to take charge and take action to get what he wants. You want him to be dominate and just go for it without having to go slow and methodically follow the usual steps. Very good advice on here so far just let him know what you want him to do and what's off limits and have a safe word as others already stated.
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reader, Moochi  +, writes (27 October 2009):
Hi,
Thats a fetish wrongly interpreted. I would say that to you your boyfriend raping you would mean that he shud find you so irresistible that he will loose his senses and aply force. If this is the case then I dont think there is anything wrong.
But do understand that this might have negetive effects later. There might be a time when you might not be wanting any but he will confuse your denial for your fetish. Making love is a very emotional thing. One should always be careful about those little things which turn into big misunderstanding.
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reader, rcn +, writes (27 October 2009):
 There's a difference between a fetish of doing this with your boyfriend, and really being violated by someone you don't know, have no intentions of being with, that takes your will of what you want away. So from a fetish end, there's nothing wrong with you. But if you desire the experience of the horror of really being raped, I'd have to question your sanity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): What you want is complete loss of controle. Your a mental masocist with sadistic tendancies. Now actual rape is extreamly traumatic but mondern day literature or literotica has fantasised it ALOT.
If your trying to get a guy to actually rape you then you have a sexual deviation that could end up being a problem but if you just want to be out of control that can be alot of fun. In life day to day we have to be in control. Dont cry over this, dont be mad at your coworker it will ruin your working relations, dont forget your homework you will fail, blah blah blah. Wanting to be out of control is normal what better way then in the bedroom with someone you trust.
Dont force your partner. Some fantasies are better left in the fantasie realm. Its all up to personal distrection.
PLease forgive my spelling I am a psychology major not an english major lol
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reader, that one kid +, writes (27 October 2009):
You simple have a fetish =) there is nothing wrong with that at all, you are into what you are into. Maybe you can roll play and pretend he is raping you? Or something like that. You would be amazed what some people are into. Just tell your bf this is something you want to try and see what he says. There is nothing wrong with you, cause you want your bf to do it, now if you wanted some random person to do it....... then there would be a problem =/ its just a harmless fetish
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