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female
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writes:OK, I had this little crush for a guy that I see socially once or twice a week, only I suspect because of his looks, and because I thought he was a bit shy, very smart, and I liked his relaxed ways. He asked me to go out once, and then, during the date, he asked me to go out again - when we were going out, he happened to see my scooter - I am recovering from an accident I had some time ago, no big deal, but I am going around with a disability scooter - and he looked quite shocked, but didn't ask me why I was using that. After that I wrote him to organize the date (my mistake, I should have waited for him to call first) and he was writing only two-words replies, while usually he seems an articulated person with others. The date was quite horrible: I have seen people having more fun at the dentist. He was distraught, we watched a movie but he never made a remark, or give any sign that he was interested, and then HE suggested to go have some dinner, I said yes mainly because I still thought "maybe he is shy", and that was even worse, it felt like a job interview, never one single reference to something personal and still seemed very bored, he suggested that I take his phone number, and when the date ended, horror of horrors, he affectionately rubbed my back, like I would do to my grandma! After that I never heard from him again, except after maybe 2 months, when he asked me to go out again, and when I said I couldn't, he organized a party at his place (didn't want to spend the evening alone, uh?). Anyway, it is quite clear that this guy doesn't want me, and I still feel a bit of pain because I liked him a bit, what can I do to overcome it? I know that the reasonable thing to think is that: maybe one of his friends is the man for me, maybe he wasn't so boring with me because he doesn't like me but because he IS boring in spite of the appearance, maybe he has other serious flaws of character that I don't know, like cooling his jets after he saw my disability scooter without even knowing what that is about, anyway, how can I manage to stay friendly and don't give a damn? thanks for any suggestions
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso sorry about your injury, man, and thanks for your reply. I have actually an invisible illness (recovering from severe CFS, now halfway to normal), so at first sight you can t really see what s wrong with me, and I got that scooter not only to go around more easily, but also to weed out the jerks immediately, so in that sense I am glad it worked.
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